Dating
Published On: October 14th, 2009 by Single City Guy | 1 Comment
An aspect of dating in NYC is how unbelievably picky women can be. I’ve already discussed my frustration’s with women’s unrealistic preferences of men and this story exemplifies that frustration. This occurred while I was using Craigslist to find a date, I came across a post by a beautiful Jewish woman, in her late 20’s (I was 23 at the time.) I liked her wit and we seemed to have the same interests. Moments later an e-mail was sent to the anonymous craigslist e-mail address only to be surprised by a quick, non-porn-bot response. It seemed as if I had lucked out!
With several additional quickly exchanged e-mails we talked and seemed to be very compatible with each other. Messages were going back and forth so quickly it seemed hard to catch up, but it was clear we were compatible with each other. In one quickly sent e-mail I forgot to attach my picture; I was enthralled and excited the process didn’t happen. I quickly corrected the situation not expecting the tone of the next e-mail. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Frustrations, Ethnicity/Race, Gripes, Stories, Women Standards
Dating
Published On: September 22nd, 2009 by Single City Guy | No Comments
Over the weekend I had the “why are you single?” conversation with a female friend quickly turning into a conversation of dating preferences. I believe women’s preferences are more like requirements, and are to narrowly defined and unrealistic, a major frustration of mine in the dating battlefield. I’ve found most of my friends who end up in happy long term relationships are with people who did match all of their preferences. Maybe the person was shorter, a different ethnicity, or had a different job. My friend countered by saying she doesn’t want to compromise or settle. I told her it’s not settling if you find someone who’s a good match for you.
Men have dating preferences but they tend to be very flexible. An example would be my height requirement, I prefer tall women, since I’m tall myself (6’2”), but it’s not a requirement. If I met someone attractive but was 5’2”, I would consider dating her. Many of the women I know aren’t as flexible in their dating preferences, they are too many requirements. It feels as if your battling against a list of “and’s” and deemed dateable only if you match a narrow set of height, weight, eye color, type of job, skin color, and hair type requirements.
Settling is when you have nothing in common with the person your dating and your with them because you feel you cannot do better. Not meeting the requirements on a checklist is more like buying software for my computer, not dating. Most of my frustration stems from this issue when dating. Am I the only one who’s been frustrated by these unrealistic requirements?
Tagged As: Dating Frustrations, Dating Preferences, Gripes, Requirements, Women Standards
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