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You Saw Your Ex, Now What?

A woman, waiting for the N Train at 59th Street in NYC

Managing a post-relationship is a hard process. The way the breakup was handled with the ex, influences the reaction you’ll receive when you see them again. Trust me, you will see your ex again, especially when you least expect it.

Living in New York, you must be ready to meet any number of random people at any given time or situation. This includes the people from your previous relationships. In a sense, for me, the last few weeks were a series of extremes. On one hand, I was reaching out to a woman who I dated, got along bey well with, only to lose communication. In every way, romantically or not, I was making trying to interject myself into her life. Because things ended well, the conversation went well. On the other hand, I crossed paths with Rule Breaker on the train recently, and while things ended amicably, the reaction received was far from that. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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How Do You Handle The Breakup And The Ex?

Post relationship management is a tricky and difficult process, especially in NYC. In the city, you’re bound to meet up with your past at unexpected moments and situations. Usually, before the breakup happens, decisions are made, and must be changed based on the new status of the relationship. Look at Hugh Hefner whom was dumped by his fiancé, days before the wedding. The cover of the June 2011 issue of playbow now sports a “Runaway Bride” stick on the cover, the same cover set to introduce the new Ms. Hefner to the world. That’s a bold way to handle a breakup.

Breakups suck, regardless of how much they may need to happen. The way the breakup is handled will also effect how things proceed in the future with your ex. What will happen when when you see them again? If you two are friendly, or enemies the answer to this question are completely different. Potentially, there’s a lot of the feelings that arise from the now, completed, relationship. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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Suck It Up and Get Over Them!

The Light At The End Of The Tunnel

Easier said than done, getting over someone is possibly the hardest thing in the world to do. Holding onto the previous relationship, bringing past scenarios into new relationships, or not moving forward because of your previous relationship is quite detrimental. There’s an end to everything, including a relationship. While trying to get over someone is hard, in most cases you have to suck it up, and get over them. It’s not the end of the world that your previous relationship ended, it is the end of the world that your next relationship doesn’t begin.

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Real Talk: I'm Lost

Lost In The Woods With Ineligible Signs

I never want to be one of those people who talk about their breakups as if it was the end of the world. The end of a relationship isn’t death, and one’s life shouldn’t revolve around a relationship. While my reintroduction into being single, it’s easy to say that I’ll be starting exactly where I left off, but that’s far from reality. It’s hard to admit this, but I’m lost, emotionally, physically, and completely. I find myself, attempting to be the same person I was before a relationship, only to realize I’m quite out of touch with that world. I’m not second guessing myself, as much as I am paralyzed by rust, and certain other feelings that have seemed to burrow themselves into my head. I’m not clicking; the methods, patterns, and game plan I’ve once had doesn’t work anymore. I’m rusty, I’m lost, and confused. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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I’m Single Again… So What’s Next?

A highway thru the forest, covered in leaves

Now that I’m single again, the question of “what to do next” has arisen several times. Each time I return with an answer of, “I don’t know.” What does one person do when they are single? Where do you begin? Should I begin dating again? I don’t have the answer to these questions, as I’m going thru the motions myself, but I’ve received some helpful advice from friends that are quite helpful. Coincodently, friend and date coach Thomas Edwards recently posted this video about the subject. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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