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Know Your Boundaries

Published On: June 30th, 2011 by Single City Guy | No Comments

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Dating is a very exiting process. You’ve met someone whom you share similar interests and have great conversations. It could be that the two of you are a perfect match and meant for each other. This sort of excitement and anticipation is thrilling, and at times, quite addictive. This doesn’t mean there are wedding bells in the future, but you’re on a good path to meeting someone great. This doesn’t mean you should, start talking about marriage on the first date. In most cases, if you begin discussing your wedding plans you’ve made a grave mistake. You’ve gone beyond the normal dating boundaries. While you may have thought you were being open and honest, you were entering a place of uncomfortability and creepiness. Committing yourself to someone you’ve just met, isn’t considered normal dating behavior.  [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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Get To Know Her Preferences

Published On: May 5th, 2011 by Single City Guy | 6 Comments

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A bad side-effect to writing a singles blog, is the tendency to over analyze the patterns of your partner. Over analyzing isn’t a good thing, neither are the freak outs from analysis without any facts. While there are general guidelines, they don’t account for every woman’s personal taste, style, and preferences. In order to date, the most effective way, get to know her preferences, and to stop assuming what is going on in her life.

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Don’t Hold Back Your Feelings, Just Act

Published On: March 23rd, 2011 by Single City Guy | 5 Comments

The discussion of whether men or women should approach first, is much like discussing whether the chicken or egg came first. Who cares which one came first, we should focus on better questions like, why’d it cross the road? Many may remember the way they met their partner, but that experience doesn’t have any significant impact on the relationship. A guy approaching a woman first, doesn’t indicate a relationship will last longer than a woman approaching a guy. The romanticized first meeting, is usually a casual get together. How many couples have you met, were introduced by friends, or at a house party, or even at work? The horse-drawn carriages, flowers, and violinist in the background are often saved for anniversaries and engagements.

The complaint about men, or women, not approaching first is rooted in personal preference, and feelings. The first is easy to explain, we’re lazy when it comes to love. The current generation’s approach to dating and love is “oh they should do it!” instead of “I should do this!” Take a moment, and read some of your favorite dating blogs, and magazines (including this blog). Notice how much finger-pointing, and responses to the finger-pointing occurs. While some justified, there’s some needless finger-pointing about issues that truly don’t matter. It’s because we’re lazy and rather someone else do the heavy lifting, instead of taking it upon ourselves.

The most absurd thing, are out feelings, and how we “feel” the other “should” do. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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Guidelines to Contacting and Communicating With Her

Published On: March 1st, 2011 by Single City Guy | 6 Comments

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One of the reasons guys are slow to respond to a text or a phone call, is because we’re busy. Life happens. While it’s a valid excuse, it doesn’t mean that she’ll be waiting for your next call or message. A lack of communication isn’t something that draws a woman closer to you, instead it makes them think you’re not interested. Even if you end up in the hospital, women are more likely to walk away from a guy who shows a “lack of interest.” Poor communication, especially during the dating process, is a major pitfall. This doesn’t mean you have to call her every day, or every moment, but you should make her aware that your interest hasn’t waned.

If you’re interesting in a woman, you should make sure the lines of communication and contacting her remain open. Here are some guidelines to make sure you don’t miss out, due to a lack of communication. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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Does Your Bank Account Matter To Women?

Published On: February 23rd, 2011 by Single City Guy | 5 Comments

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Gold Diggers exist. These are women, who are only attracted to men only for their luxury. It doesn’t matter how nice, kind, and caring you may be, if you aren’t being driven in a Mayback, you should get back. I don’t believe this type of woman is the norm. Not every woman is attracted to men for their wallets. Some recent stats challenge this position. According to the results of Match.com, “Singles In America” study, 35% of women surveyed say that a partner who makes as much money as they do, is a must have or very important trait. In comparison, only 12% of the men have indicated this as an important quality.

If you were to look at these numbers on the surface, they indicate that women are “gold diggers”, but that’s jumping very quickly to inaccurate conclusions.

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The Misguided Pickup Techniques Men Need To Stop Using

Published On: February 21st, 2011 by Single City Guy | 9 Comments

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I’m often reminded of the silly things men do to get a woman’s attention. We’ve all tried something stupid based on advice of our friends, books, or websites. Every guy has tried most of these techniques, only to end up looking like a fool, and often finding out that we’ve offended someone. These “pickup” techniques make us look like a Tool Academy contestant, than a person who should get a phone number. Women have been telling men to stop these techniques for years, and many don’t listen. So here’s a short list of things men, need to stop trying, to pick up women. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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When Are You Being Inconsiderate To Her

Published On: September 11th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 1 Comment

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There are many times when men are inconsiderate towards women. This often happens during the the beginning of the dating process. Our inconsiderateness isn’t on purpose, we’re trying to manage our lives as best as anyone else. Life is busy and hectic; an emotional and physical nightmare that has its ups and downs. Often when we’re seen as being inconsiderate, it’s something we trip over, and don’t mean. I often call these our “stupid male moves”, and happen when there’s lapses in judgement or thought. The  ”classic” example of men being inconsiderate is when we don’t call a woman after getting their number. Often we’re entangled in our lives and forget or don’t act (there are other reasons we don’t call, as previously covered.)

Not calling isn’t a sin, regardless of what women would like us to believe. There are other, more deviously, instances when we clearly are not being considerate of the women we date. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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How To Improve Yourself In The Bedroom

Published On: April 2nd, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments

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We guys are often vexed by the female orgasm. It seems hard to find it, or to know if she’s having one. In reality, the female orgasm isn’t the moving target as we all believe it to be. It’s quite easy make a woman shiver while under the sheets than we’re led on to believe; we just have to stop thinking like men. Making us go crazy is quite easy, stroke us enough and we’ll shiver, shake and collapse in a pleasure coma. For women it’s a bit different, first you need to find her pleasure hot-zones, and second you need to integrate them while having sex. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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Men Must Respect Women

Published On: March 30th, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments

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Men aren’t exempt from showing women respect. While women need to display more respect while dating men, we must also show them the same amount of respect they deserve. Respect isn’t waiting on a woman’s whim and acting as her servant (as one someone had commented); it’s having common courtesy and respect to treat her as a person and not as a thing.

Showing a woman you respect her isn’t a difficult process. Begin with establishing a level of honesty; if you need to say something important during a date, tell her, even if you think it may hurt her. Don’t be offensive or provide inappropriate details about some things. You can be honest about what you’re seeking in a woman, and if you have an interest in her. “I’m not interested in you,” as respectful, opposed to “you’re an ugly bitch!” [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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Don’t Waste A Woman’s Time

Published On: March 27th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 7 Comments

Why Do I Waste All My Precious Time?

I believe, women often feel men are time wasters. Women are quick to point out they aren’t playing games and want to know the direction of their interactions with you. There are guys who date only for casual sex, but that’s a waste of time if the woman their with wants something serious. A woman can get laid easily if she wants. I remember one blogger saying, she could yell from her balcony to any guy passing underneath it and ask if he wants to come up; 9 out of 10 times he would.

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