Posts Tagged Understanding Women
Be Honest With Your Date
Posted by Single City Guy in Tips for Men on March 10, 2010
There are millions of articles, websites, books and magazines dedicated to translating the hidden language of men. It’s not that we speak a hidden language, but we communicate differently than women. Generally we are seen as poor communicators, a fact I’m not inclined to dispute. Men are perceived as poor communicators because most of our communication relies on assumptions and actions instead of traditional verbalization. We speak, but don’t go into detail about every piece of our lives. The truth of the matter is we display our feelings differently than women, which causes plenty of confusion and frustration.
Women enjoy hearing our feelings and honest thoughts. The truth is more respectable than a lie or and more honorable than leading women to their own assumptions. A woman will often make assumptions based on our actions and their wants, regardless of they’re accurate. If we act as if we’re heading towards a long term relationship, when we’re just seeking sex, women will assume we’re working towards a long term relationship. Read the rest of this entry »
If You Want It, You’ll Fight For It
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on January 27, 2010
During a recent iChat conversation on the Thread.com blog, the ultimate dating truism was mentioned; if you like someone, you’ll fight for them. Often this dating logic places the burden of truth on the shoulders of men. If we like a girl, we would make attempts to call her. We would reach out to her every moment we had, we walk the mile for her every time. If a guy really liked a woman, he would do his best to reach out to her.
While the advice is accurate it’s also adds unrealistic expectations, and allows women to live in a fantasy land. It doesn’t recognize the actual expectations of living in the real world. It also excuses them of any responsibility. I believe this truism goes both ways. If a woman really liked a guy, she has the same responsibilities to fight for his attention. Read the rest of this entry »
Lessons I’ve Learned From Bad Sex
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating on January 27, 2010
Bad sex happens. Even those who claim to be “magicians” in bed, often jump over the basics that make sex wonderful. Bad sex isn’t an indicator of a bad woman, but some of the best lessons I’ve learned about women come from the many bad experiences between the sheets. That’s not to say you should sleep with a woman to determine if she’s the right one for you, but great relationships usually have great sex. There’s usually a sexual compatibility that exists with those you’re dated for a while and those you’ve wound up in relationships. I’ve found some trends with the women I’ve had horrible sexual experiences with. Read the rest of this entry »
Do Women Seek One Night Stands?
Posted by Single City Guy in Question for Women on January 24, 2010
There’s a theory that only men go out to have sex. Yet in today’s modern, post-feminist world, I’m finding many examples where women tend to be the aggressor when it coes to seeking sex. I know women think about sex, as much if not more than men. What about seeking sex? I’ve often wondered if women seek one night stands, and how often? Enjoying them is quite a different question.
Women Seem To Read Messages On Online Dating Websites First
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on January 14, 2010
Last week I asked women, if they read messages sent to them thru dating websites first, or if they take a look at the profile first. Last weeks poll results, comments and messages indicate, most women read the messages the receive first (49% of those polled). Second, I’m assuming, is taking a look at the profile (40%), and third tends to be the profile photo (under 11%). This means what you write to women matter the most! There are some additional items to keep in mind while dating online. Read the rest of this entry »
What Do Women Look at First When They Receive a Message on A Dating Website?
Posted by Single City Guy in Question for Women on January 7, 2010
I’m finding myself in a bit of a quandary. I believe women are receiving great messages from one on OkCupid, but aren’t responding to them. Messages by my dating coach and myself seem to have the same results. They do seem to be visiting my profile. While the message seems good enough to gardner some attention, they aren’t good enough for a response. I’m trying to figure out what the problem is here.
My thought is women may be looking at my profile first before the message, or reading the message than the profile to see if it’s worth responding to. So the question I have for women is this: when you received a message do you read the message first or view the profile first?
Women, feel free to answer the poll below or leave comments below.
Check The Source of Your Advice
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on December 10, 2009
I’m very careful about whom I ask for dating advice. As much as I enjoy hanging with my boys, they aren’t the best source of good dating advice. I would ask a woman about attracting women before asking a guy. It makes sense, women understand women. On the other hand, women tend to get their advice from…other women! I think this is absurd. Asking another woman about men is like asking a mechanic about your leather seating. He may know how the leather seats in your car functions, but isn’t an expert. Ask him about your engine stalling and he can provide you with a dissertation. In dating, it seems we’re often willing to trust the advice of “non-experts.” Often people tend to be more confused and single. Read the rest of this entry »
Guidelines For Men to Texting and Dating
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on December 3, 2009
The reason men text instead of call isn’t because they are being lazy. If anything calling is easier than sending a text message. Women, prefer a man to call. They enjoy the sense of emotion conveyed through communication and texts are very emotionless. Most of the advice I’ve received concerning texting has helped me understand when texting is okay and calling is needed. Although, most of the advice I’ve received assumes women do not prefer texting, causes plenty of conflicting information and confusion. Read the rest of this entry »
How To Perform Better On Her, Orally
Posted by Single City Guy in Tips for Men on November 22, 2009
This post is a part of the weekly series “Tips For Men”, were specific female provided tips are provided by guest bloggers or questionnaires for men.
About a month ago, I asked women for tips on how we can perform better when it comes to oral sex. Between asking some of my dear friends to some of the reader responses, I have five common tips on ways we man can make the experience more enjoyable. Guys, pay attention and take notes, the better you please her orally, the more she will love you! Read the rest of this entry »
Question for Women: What Should We Shave?
Posted by Single City Guy in Question for Women on November 2, 2009
Men are taught that our facial hair is an important part of our grooming. It can make us attractive (or not) and portray a sense of personality. We’re taught to shave by our fathers, the same way they were taught by their fathers. We have more than facial hair to deal with and ignore the conversation surrounding shaving our parts. It’s clear women have strong opinions about men shaving. The question I have is, do women expect men to shave and trim? Which is preferred, clean shaven or trimmed? Is there any other body hair (back hair, chest hair, underarm hair) that men should also shave or trim? Women, please provide your thoughts in the comments section below.
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