Published On: April 2nd, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments
We guys are often vexed by the female orgasm. It seems hard to find it, or to know if she’s having one. In reality, the female orgasm isn’t the moving target as we all believe it to be. It’s quite easy make a woman shiver while under the sheets than we’re led on to believe; we just have to stop thinking like men. Making us go crazy is quite easy, stroke us enough and we’ll shiver, shake and collapse in a pleasure coma. For women it’s a bit different, first you need to find her pleasure hot-zones, and second you need to integrate them while having sex. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Published On: March 30th, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments
Men aren’t exempt from showing women respect. While women need to display more respect while dating men, we must also show them the same amount of respect they deserve. Respect isn’t waiting on a woman’s whim and acting as her servant (as one someone had commented); it’s having common courtesy and respect to treat her as a person and not as a thing.
Showing a woman you respect her isn’t a difficult process. Begin with establishing a level of honesty; if you need to say something important during a date, tell her, even if you think it may hurt her. Don’t be offensive or provide inappropriate details about some things. You can be honest about what you’re seeking in a woman, and if you have an interest in her. “I’m not interested in you,” as respectful, opposed to “you’re an ugly bitch!” [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Published On: March 27th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 7 Comments
I believe, women often feel men are time wasters. Women are quick to point out they aren’t playing games and want to know the direction of their interactions with you. There are guys who date only for casual sex, but that’s a waste of time if the woman their with wants something serious. A woman can get laid easily if she wants. I remember one blogger saying, she could yell from her balcony to any guy passing underneath it and ask if he wants to come up; 9 out of 10 times he would.
Published On: March 10th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 4 Comments
There are millions of articles, websites, books and magazines dedicated to translating the hidden language of men. It’s not that we speak a hidden language, but we communicate differently than women. Generally we are seen as poor communicators, a fact I’m not inclined to dispute. Men are perceived as poor communicators because most of our communication relies on assumptions and actions instead of traditional verbalization. We speak, but don’t go into detail about every piece of our lives. The truth of the matter is we display our feelings differently than women, which causes plenty of confusion and frustration.
Women enjoy hearing our feelings and honest thoughts. The truth is more respectable than a lie or and more honorable than leading women to their own assumptions. A woman will often make assumptions based on our actions and their wants, regardless of they’re accurate. If we act as if we’re heading towards a long term relationship, when we’re just seeking sex, women will assume we’re working towards a long term relationship. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Published On: January 27th, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments
During a recent iChat conversation on the Thread.com blog, the ultimate dating truism was mentioned; if you like someone, you’ll fight for them. Often this dating logic places the burden of truth on the shoulders of men. If we like a girl, we would make attempts to call her. We would reach out to her every moment we had, we walk the mile for her every time. If a guy really liked a woman, he would do his best to reach out to her.
While the advice is accurate it’s also adds unrealistic expectations, and allows women to live in a fantasy land. It doesn’t recognize the actual expectations of living in the real world. It also excuses them of any responsibility. I believe this truism goes both ways. If a woman really liked a guy, she has the same responsibilities to fight for his attention. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Published On: January 27th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 3 Comments
Bad sex happens. Even those who claim to be “magicians” in bed, often jump over the basics that make sex wonderful. Bad sex isn’t an indicator of a bad woman, but some of the best lessons I’ve learned about women come from the many bad experiences between the sheets. That’s not to say you should sleep with a woman to determine if she’s the right one for you, but great relationships usually have great sex. There’s usually a sexual compatibility that exists with those you’re dated for a while and those you’ve wound up in relationships. I’ve found some trends with the women I’ve had horrible sexual experiences with. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Published On: January 24th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 6 Comments
There’s a theory that only men go out to have sex. Yet in today’s modern, post-feminist world, I’m finding many examples where women tend to be the aggressor when it coes to seeking sex. I know women think about sex, as much if not more than men. What about seeking sex? I’ve often wondered if women seek one night stands, and how often? Enjoying them is quite a different question.
Published On: January 14th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 2 Comments
Last week I asked women, if they read messages sent to them thru dating websites first, or if they take a look at the profile first. Last weeks poll results, comments and messages indicate, most women read the messages the receive first (49% of those polled). Second, I’m assuming, is taking a look at the profile (40%), and third tends to be the profile photo (under 11%). This means what you write to women matter the most! There are some additional items to keep in mind while dating online. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Published On: January 7th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 10 Comments
I’m finding myself in a bit of a quandary. I believe women are receiving great messages from one on OkCupid, but aren’t responding to them. Messages by my dating coach and myself seem to have the same results. They do seem to be visiting my profile. While the message seems good enough to gardner some attention, they aren’t good enough for a response. I’m trying to figure out what the problem is here.
My thought is women may be looking at my profile first before the message, or reading the message than the profile to see if it’s worth responding to. So the question I have for women is this: when you received a message do you read the message first or view the profile first?
Women, feel free to answer the poll below or leave comments below.
Published On: December 10th, 2009 by Single City Guy | 1 Comment
I’m very careful about whom I ask for dating advice. As much as I enjoy hanging with my boys, they aren’t the best source of good dating advice. I would ask a woman about attracting women before asking a guy. It makes sense, women understand women. On the other hand, women tend to get their advice from…other women! I think this is absurd. Asking another woman about men is like asking a mechanic about your leather seating. He may know how the leather seats in your car functions, but isn’t an expert. Ask him about your engine stalling and he can provide you with a dissertation. In dating, it seems we’re often willing to trust the advice of “non-experts.” Often people tend to be more confused and single. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Bad sex happens. Even those who claim to be “magicians” in bed, often jump over the basics that make sex wonderful. Bad sex isn’t an indicator of a bad woman, but some of the best lessons I’ve learned about women come from the many bad experiences between the sheets. That’s not to say you should sleep with a woman to determine if she’s the right one for you, but great relationships usually have great sex. There’s usually a sexual compatibility that exists with those you’re dated for a while and those you’ve wound up in relationships. I’ve found some trends with the women I’ve had horrible sexual experiences with.
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