Posts Tagged Understanding Men
Women Must Respect Men
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on March 9, 2010
There are common themes that emerge when I read many other dating blogs, women taking their hostility out on men. We’re often reminded why men are jerks, horrible assholes, and why a guy isn’t suited for female standards. This stems from the perceived notion that women aren’t finding their perfect guy, and slamming men for the bad decisions in men they date. This is an ultimate sign of disrespect, almost as if women don’t think a good, valuable guy exists for them. Read the rest of this entry »
Women Aren’t Entitled To Anything
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on March 8, 2010
“Well she’s got a hotty body, but her attitude is potty/When I met her at a party she was hardly acting naughty/I said “Shorty, would you call me?”/She said “Pardon me, are you ballin’?”/I said “Darling, you sound like a prostitute pausing”/Oh so you’re one them freaks, get geeked at the sight of an ATM receipt” – OutKast – Roses
Entitled women are the worst type of women in the world to date. An entitled woman believes men should always prove their worth. They feel men should always pay for a date, call within the first two days, meet their beck and call, be a certain height, and always ask them out. Some entitlements are warranted, but most aren’t, and some go to extremes, such as gold diggers.
Entitled women often believe that men owe them something for their time. They are the pretty, pretty, princesses who should have everything given to them. Not only are these women kidding themselves, they are the worst kind of woman to date! Read the rest of this entry »
Men Feel They Must Be In Control
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on February 19, 2010
We men have the need to feel as if we’re in control of any situation. It’s what we’re taught when we’re young, it’s how we’re raised, it’s what society tells us. We are reminded, often, we are to take the lead. When a situation arises, it feels as if it’s a guys duty to ensure all is under control. We’re taught to take the lead, and it’s something we believe women expect. In many cases they expect the same as well. Women expect us to ask them out on a date, they expect us to pay for the first date, they expect us to make the move. The pressure, assertiveness and control is very much in our court.
The post-feminist modern women has a very different outlook on this scenario. They want to be in control (having been controlled for so long), they want a piece of this power that men have had for centuries. They want their say. This causes plenty of conflicts for many reasons, first control isn’t always about decision making and second, women want us to be in control, they want a man. Read the rest of this entry »
Answering The Frisky’s 50 Questions For Men
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on February 12, 2010
Popular blog, The Frisky, covered a survey launched by Esquire for the American Woman. For every woman who answers the survey, Esquire would donate $1 to the Haiti Relief Fund. In turn, The Frisky created their own 50 questions for men they would answers from ASAP. I figured, I would thrown my own answers to their questions, although some of them are purely foolish. Read the rest of this entry »
If You Want It, You’ll Fight For It
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on January 27, 2010
During a recent iChat conversation on the Thread.com blog, the ultimate dating truism was mentioned; if you like someone, you’ll fight for them. Often this dating logic places the burden of truth on the shoulders of men. If we like a girl, we would make attempts to call her. We would reach out to her every moment we had, we walk the mile for her every time. If a guy really liked a woman, he would do his best to reach out to her.
While the advice is accurate it’s also adds unrealistic expectations, and allows women to live in a fantasy land. It doesn’t recognize the actual expectations of living in the real world. It also excuses them of any responsibility. I believe this truism goes both ways. If a woman really liked a guy, she has the same responsibilities to fight for his attention. Read the rest of this entry »
Understanding Men’s Mixed Messages
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on January 15, 2010
A while ago I was asked “Why do some men say one thing but mean another?” It’s been really hard to answer such a broad question. In my experience, women do the same exact thing, they say something but mean a completely different thing. Sometimes there’s a miscommunication, women want us to say certain things and misinterpret what we say or hear what they want to hear. Sometimes “I love you,” doesn’t mean I love you, it means I like you. Providing a list of the things we guys say and do would be asinine. I would be providing women a checklist of the things we say and do, and that’s not helpful either. There are things women can do to help understand the many messages we give them. Read the rest of this entry »
Confident Women Are Sexy
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on December 27, 2009
“…I’ve also been told that I’m intimidating because of my confidence on more than one occasion. Apparently, that was the reason I was never asked to my high school prom. I thought confidence was a turn-on. *scratches head* Is it true that it can be an intimidating factor as well?” Mikael comment on “Are Men Intimidated By Women, Preventing Us From Asking Her Out?”
I love dating confident women! They seem to have a certain wit, humor and attitude that I enjoy. Confidence in a woman is a sexy thing, sexier than any lingerie (well close to it). Most men are attracted to confident women. The only time confidence turns into intimidation is if that confidence morphs into arrogance and over aggressiveness. Read the rest of this entry »
My Perfect Woman Must Enjoy Sports
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating on December 24, 2009
This may sound cliche but most men love a woman who enjoys and understand sports. I’m a huge pro-football fan, my favorite team is the New York Jets. During football season, Sunday becomes an important sports day. I’m usually watching the game at home or at a bar with other fans. I get very excited watching my team play, there’s something about the sport that thrills me. I’m passionate about my team and about football; it’s the same passion I have for my profession or hobbies. My perfect woman would understand and participate in my football fanaticism, even if she’s not a Jets fan. Read the rest of this entry »
Are Men Intimidated By Women, Preventing Us From Asking Her Out?
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on December 21, 2009
Women have asked me if men are intimidated by their looks? They often wonder if their looks intimidate us and prevent us from asking them on dates. I’ve also heard women use this as an excuse to mend their bruised ego when a guy doesn’t ask them out. The answer to the question is yes, and no. Men aren’t often intimidated by good looking women. Often the reason guys do not ask women out has nothing to do with her looks and everything to do with us. Read the rest of this entry »
Friends With Benefits Rarely Turn Into Girlfriends
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on December 19, 2009
A friend with benefits is exactly what it sounds like to us men. You’re a friend, with some benefits. You’re not my long term girlfriend, you’re not my future wife. You are a friend, who I fuck!
That may sound harsh, but with the recent discussions about finding great f-buddies (read Simone Grant’s part 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and Moxie’s Tips), I wanted to provide a guy’s point of view. There’s nothing wrong with a friend with benefit, or an f-buddy but there’s the tendency to forget what the relationship is based upon: sex, lots of it. Otherwise the person would just be a friend. Read the rest of this entry »
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