The discussion of whether men or women should approach first, is much like discussing whether the chicken or egg came first. Who cares which one came first, we should focus on better questions like, why’d it cross the road? Many may remember the way they met their partner, but that experience doesn’t have any significant impact on the relationship. A guy approaching a woman first, doesn’t indicate a relationship will last longer than a woman approaching a guy. The romanticized first meeting, is usually a casual get together. How many couples have you met, were introduced by friends, or at a house party, or even at work? The horse-drawn carriages, flowers, and violinist in the background are often saved for anniversaries and engagements.
The complaint about men, or women, not approaching first is rooted in personal preference, and feelings. The first is easy to explain, we’re lazy when it comes to love. The current generation’s approach to dating and love is “oh they should do it!” instead of “I should do this!” Take a moment, and read some of your favorite dating blogs, and magazines (including this blog). Notice how much finger-pointing, and responses to the finger-pointing occurs. While some justified, there’s some needless finger-pointing about issues that truly don’t matter. It’s because we’re lazy and rather someone else do the heavy lifting, instead of taking it upon ourselves.
The most absurd thing, are out feelings, and how we “feel” the other “should” do. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
