I seem try to think myself into a date. If I follow a certain formula, or say certain things, she will pay attention to me. The Game shows this can be a successful technique, if you know the formula, however The Game isn’t the norm. That’s not how it works at all. While thinking, I often find myself preparing for rejection or the multiple what-ifs. When I’m not thinking, I tend to be under the influence. I’ve also achieved the best successes, because I was forced to just by myself and react to the situations as they present themselves. My liver and my health cannot take the consistent abuse of alcohol.

The times I find myself over thinking are the moments my confidence level dips. Other times it’s when I find myself unsure in how to act in a situation. While they’re rules and guidelines to follow, many times I find myself in situations where the rules no longer apply.

So, now that I know the problem, how do I get past this hurdle? Between two dating coaches and this blog I’m sure I’ll find the correct answer. So far I found the answer to be, “relax and do what ever feels comfortable.” Some of what feels comfortable isn’t great dating techniques, but at least I’m not thinking. I’m also (hopefully) learning from the mistakes I’ve made, but also from the successes I have.

Until then, I guess I’m going to learn some techniques that gets me to stop thinking so much. Any suggestions are more than welcome!

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