Every woman loves a phone call. Even the most text centric woman appreciates a phone call on occasion. To help determine the method for communication with her, find out her preference. If she prefers phone calls over texts, restrict your texts to short informative texts, such as “I’m running late” or “I hope you’re having a great day, can’t wait to see you later. We’re still on for Thursday?” If she prefers texting over calling, feel free to initiate dates thru texts (“Hey are you available on Sunday at 5pm?”) and engage in idle conversation (“Today is a rough day for me. My boss sucks! How is your’s going?”)

Important information, such as the need to reschedule a date, should be a phone call instead of text. If you feel it is important enough to call, then do not hesitate to call, but be mindful of the time. If she’s busy at work, calling during the day may not be a wise move. Lunch time or afterwork is better for communicating. I’ve had recent experience with this; plans for an upcoming date were changing and needed to be discussed. Instead of texting “Hey the movie we want to see isn’t in theaters on Saturday,” I called and dealt with the dreaded voice mail monster. Not only did I receive a call back, but was able to convey a want and willingness to see her again. Remember, if it is important, call!

After the fifth date, or a month of seeing the same person, you should be more inclined to call. While e-mails and text messages may be great, calling a woman tells her you think she’s important. Texting is an efficient and easy way to communicate but it’s just that, calling require more commitment, focus and determination. After five dates you should be comfortable enough to engage in idle phone conversation. Even if short, you are communicating between the times you get the opportunity to see her again.

Random texts are not a bad thing. Especially when you’ve been dating the same person consistently. Calling can be invasive, especially during the work day. If you’re calling while she’s busy at work, she’s going to assume it is important, and will pick up. Make sure it is important enough! Occasionally, this can be a good thing, consistently it could be very annoying. Texting should be applied here, texts like “I hope you’re having a great day!” or idle chatter is easier to manage during a busy work day. It allows you to be kind and endearing, and remind her how much you like her.

If you need help determining whether you should call or text in a particular situation here’s an easy way to make the determination, think of your mother. Some guys talk to their mother every day, but usually when something important happens we would call. If you have dinner plans with your mother and you need to cancel or change, you’ll call. If you want to visit her, you’ll call. If you’re running late, you may not call. While dating, determine whether you should call if you would call your mother under the same circumstances. Otherwise send a text message.

Everyone is different about their preferences between how frequent someone should call versus how frequent someone should text. There should be a balance between the two. Calling often can be annoying, texting often can come off as dismissive. I believe you should maintain a healthy ratio between texting and calling. Just note when you should call and when you should text.

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