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Trade For Me!

Published On: May 27th, 2011 by Single City Guy | No Comments

Man, praying, with the poster of "Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind"

Every so often, there a story that encompasses the feelings I’m going through, in my dating life. This time, it’s from a brilliant article in the New Yorker, where author Simon Rich describes the emotions of being traded; his current girlfriend, trading him for another man. As a sports fanatic, and a lover of baseball, the article is brilliant, and reads like a autobiography of a player being traded from one team to another. The article really encapsulates some feelings I have about dating, namely, who’s willing to trade for me, or pick me off of waivers?

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(via The New Yorker)

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If You Knew It Would End, Would You Date Them?

Published On: March 17th, 2011 by Single City Guy | 5 Comments

Man looking up, while holding a cross bones chest

Relationships are a messy, complicated process. They are never perfect, and never truly terrible; every relationship has their good moments, and their bad moments. When a relationship ends, it doesn’t always turn into heartbreak and dispair, sometimes there’s relief, other times anger. What if you knew that your next relationship would end? What if you know the faults and of you and your partner would be the reasons why your relationship would only last 3 months, 6 months or 2 years? Would you still enter a relationship with them and let it run it’s course? [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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Relationships Were Never Easy

Published On: December 8th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 3 Comments

A couple in a relationship conflict

Be honest, relationships aren’t easy. Every relationship requires hard work, compromises, and a willingness to work thru the problems that arise. The only time I remember any of my relationships being simple, easy, and perfect, was during high school. We could convince ourselves that our relationship with a person in our past was the best relationship in the world, and it should have never ended, but it did. If our previous relationships were so easy, and perfect, why aren’t we with that person now? [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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Sex Is Great, But It Gets Old

Published On: June 9th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 3 Comments

An empty bed

Fact: you’re replaceable in the bedroom. In the dating and relationship world, we all over think about sex. Elephants, monkeys and cockroaches all have sex, but I don’t see any elephant porn, monkeys on poles, or blogs about spicing your sex life in the cockroach motel. We analyze sex to the point that we forget a simple fact; we can easily be replaced! You’re skill between the sheets doesn’t secure your place in the bedroom. Regardless of your sexual talents, there’s always someone better, more detailed and willing to do things you may not have an interest.

Don’t get m wrong, sex is great, but it gets old. Especially when it is the basis of a relationship. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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I Can’t Get Too Comfortable, Yet

Published On: May 18th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 1 Comment

Holding back the goods underneath a sweatshirt

The beauty about being in a long term relationship is, most of the concerns that arise while dating tend to fade away. The flaw about being in a long term relationship is, most of the concerns that arise while dating tend to return. You would think I would be completely comfortable with Rule Breaker at this point in our relationship. I think that I am, but every moment I spend with her, I find myself become increasingly comfortable with her. I’m always discovering a new level of comfort and security with her.

At first I needed to see her every day, to ensure things would be okay, but at the moment, I’m past the point. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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I’m Not Excited About Having A Girlfriend Anymore

Published On: May 7th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 2 Comments

An elderly couple, sitting, in love

Roughly a month ago, I had a sit down dinner with one of my best friends. While talking she mentioned she wasn’t excited about her boyfriend, the way she was when they first met.

“Do you still love him?” I asked.

“Yes!”

“Do you still care for him?”

“Yes!”

“Do you still want to be with him?”

“Yes!”

I suggested the reason her excitement has diminished is because he’s a part of her every day routine. It doesn’t mean there isn’t any excitement, but it’s not a shock that she has a boyfriend. The same happens with friends. When I meet a new friend I’m always excited to hang out with them and invite them to many activities. Overtime the excitement fades into normalcy, they’re a friend and a part of my life.

Three months into my relationship with Rule Breaker, the same feeling has come over me. I’m not excited about having a girlfriend anymore. With each passing day, I’ve become comfortable with the knowledge that I am in a relationship with a wonderful, attractive woman.
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Relationships Aren’t The End of Dating

Published On: May 3rd, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments

Tied to the ball and chain in jail

Having a relationship doesn’t mean the end of your dating life. Actuality, a relationship means you’re dating the same person exclusively. Throughout the exclusive period, there’s still a lot to learn. The same concerns, pitfalls, and situations exist as when you’re not in an exclusive relationship. I find myself often reacting to many of my insecurities, but having to manage them with one person and not many. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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When Should You Consider Exclusivity?

Published On: March 10th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 3 Comments

Exclusive clothing logo

SCG: I know this isn't a dating picture, per say, but it's a cool design from a clothing company!

Here’s a great question I’ve recently had to handle. When do you become exclusive with the person you’re dating? There isn’t a 20 date minimum to exclusivity, it’s more innate than that, it’s a feeling. That may be a “cop out” answer, but it’s the only logical answer.

There comes a point while dating that you know it’s time to give up on seeing anyone else. It’s when the thought of dating another person doesn’t feel right, where you don’t have any interests in another person. It’s also when that feeling isn’t forced upon you but develops naturally. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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When Is Bad Sex Settling in a Relationship?

Published On: November 28th, 2009 by Single City Guy | No Comments

Day 3

Simone Grant asked a very interesting question this week, “Could you enter into a long-term relationship with someone who didn’t satisfy you sexually? Could you marry that person?” I don’t have a clear cut yes or no answer. As I was beginning to explain my answer in the comments, I came across another blog post on the topic making me reevaluate the question. I feel this is more of an issue about settling and think of the question as “Are you settling if you remain in a relationship with unsatisfactory sex?” The answer is yes, but… only if both partners do not try to resolve the problem. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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My “Polyamorous” Relationship

Published On: November 17th, 2009 by Single City Guy | 4 Comments

Poly Hearts

In the New Oxford American Dictionary, the term polyamory is defined as “the philosophy or state of being in love or romantically involved with more than one person at the same time.” To be in a polyamorous relationship means you have multiple lovers, but what about multiple loves? For almost two years I’ve been in a relationship with 3 other women, who are all across the country. All of them are single, two of them are in monogamous relationships, and all of them I consider loves. These women are very important to me, as we are emotionally invested into one another. They are more than friends, but short of benefits, and all very important to my life. They are so embedded into my inner circle, it feels as if we are in a polyamorous relationship. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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