It takes about six months to determine if you’ll have any dating success. I know there are books that promise meeting women in 30 days, but that’s only a part of the formula. To achieve any real success with dating, it requires hard work, making many mistakes, and figuring out what works best for you. It took me about four and a half months to meet my current girlfriend. Readers of the blog know the process wasn’t easy at all.

So what should your six month timeline include? It should begin with you, and what you’re seeking. It should also include things like adjusting your look, figuring which dating website works best for you, and finding out which locations and events you feel the most comfortable socializing. A six month timeline provides enough time to try out new clothing, new looks, experiment with ways to approach women in public and tweak your website.

I don’t believe you should do it alone. As we’ve seen I’ve used the services of eFlirtExpert Laurie Davis and The Professional Wingman Thomas Edwards. I started with OkCupid as my dating website of choice, and began experimenting from that point onward. I tried attending singles events, even went on a few speed dating trips. While the successes I had were building blogs to further developments, they were all necessary.

Dating isn’t a fast track process, you’re not going to meet a million women tomorrow after creating a dating profile (unless you’re famous.) Take your time, learn from your mistakes, and ask for some professional help!

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Speed dating is a great way to meet new and interesting people. My friends at OnSpeedDating.com have given me a great offer for single guys only! Tomorrow is their “More To Love” event, speed dating for full-figured women and the men they love! There are plenty of spots for men to attend, and if you click on this link and use the code PHAT, you will get in for free!

Having attended OnSpeedDating events, there’s plenty of attractive women who want to meet you! “MoreTo Love” begins at 4pm, at Butterfield 8 on E. 38th between 5th and Madison.

Have fun!

OnSpeedDating.com is different from most speed dating events, their speed dates revolve around a certain theme. Want to meet a firefighter? There’s a “Playing with Fire” event. Love older women? Try the “Cougar/Boy Toy Speed Dating” event. Last Wednesday, I went to the “Size Matters” event, focused on tall men (over 6’) and tall women (over 5’7”). The themed events help take the guess work out of what I was walking into. I love tall women and knew on Wednesday the women would be tall, and seeking tall men.

The event was held at a bar near NYU. I wanted to get to the event early, mainly because I was nervous and hungry! I had also not eaten much in the last few hours and figured I could grab a small snack (a side of fries), a drink (to calm the nerves), and mingle. When I arrived, I met the organizers, got a speed-dating pamphlet with instructions and places to note my potentials, and a name tag. I felt really awkward with the name tag, it was as if I was saying, “I need help dating, and yes my name is….”. The awkwardness lasted while at the bar. While it provided an opportunity to see my potential picks and mingle, it felt like a high-school prom. The guys were on one side, the girls on the other. I tend to be a bit adventurous.

Thinking of food more than mingling, I found myself seated in between several women. One who was definitely going to be in the speed dating mix, another two who were unsure about it. In conversation I was able to discuss beer preferences, the point of speed dating, and sports. When the event began, it was what I was told of any speed dating event. You get a limited amount of time to talk to each woman, and using the pamphlet, kept track of the ones I liked and disliked. After 17 rounds of three minute mini-dates, I had a list of potential women and non-potentials.

The dates themselves were a mixed bag but good overall. There was an interesting mix of woman, some were awkward, others I didn’t have a connection at all. The women I had initial conversations with were some of the more interesting women on my dating circuit, but those were also mixed bags of success. It was an average crowd, some good, some bad, everyone else was cool. I do feel sorry for the last 4 or 5 women I met. They didn’t get my complete effort. By the time I met them I felt so rushed, I had my mind made up and really didn’t give them much of an effort. My mind was swirling with names and details at that point.

The process of each speed date felt robotic, every three minutes I was repeating the same information repeatedly. Who I was, what I did, how old I was. Only a handful were interesting enough that I had interesting conversation. I need a new approach, perhaps a different question for each woman? After the event, there was time to converse with the women I wanted to get to know them further and have an extended date. The women I had interests with, seemed to be scooped up by other men, but I knew this wasn’t the end.

What makes OnSpeedDating.com unique is it’s approach. It’s connected to a series of websites. OnSpeedDating.com is where you create a profile, upload images, and sign up for dates. After each event you have the opportunity to select the people you would like to contact. If they respond, you begin to communicate thru their free online personal’s site, Kissburg.com. While the approach seems unintuitive, it makes some sense. At the event, you cannot juggle the people you met at once, you’re going to end up choosing one or two people to try to make a deeper connection with. If it doesn’t work out, there’s a list of women you can bridge connections with from the first meeting.

I would recommend OnSpeedDating.com to anyone seeking a spark in their dating life. While the process may be awkward (like most speed dating events), it’s a very unique way to meet new and interesting individuals. The events can be fun, interesting and fit exactly what you may be seeking at a particular moment. The worse that can happen is you become more comfortable introducing yourself to women and begin to meet some new ones.

Full Disclosure: I obtained complementary admittance to the events I choose to attend.