Posts Tagged Online Dating
Women Seem To Read Messages On Online Dating Websites First
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on January 14, 2010
Last week I asked women, if they read messages sent to them thru dating websites first, or if they take a look at the profile first. Last weeks poll results, comments and messages indicate, most women read the messages the receive first (49% of those polled). Second, I’m assuming, is taking a look at the profile (40%), and third tends to be the profile photo (under 11%). This means what you write to women matter the most! There are some additional items to keep in mind while dating online. Read the rest of this entry »
Practice Make Perfect
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on January 8, 2010

The one frustrating aspect of online dating is, the lack of responses. Often I would think of clever and unique things to say to a woman, but would never receive a response. It would become frustrating, especially after taking my time to create a properly crafted message. Even with the help of a dating coach, who crafts really elegant e-mails for me, I’m still at a loss. After targeting different women, tweaking my profile, I’m still laying a fat zero in the response department.
It frustrates me, after sending a handful of messages, I wouldn’t receive a response. I took a moment to look at the stats of my OkCupid account. I realized there was a huge disparity in the amount of profiles I’ve quick matched or noted (780) and the amount of messages I’ve sent (140). Not only am I not sending out enough messages, I’m not practicing the method of sending a message. Read the rest of this entry »
Winking: Good for Women, Bad for Men
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating on November 14, 2009
A while ago, I incorporated winking into my routine as a way to display interest in a woman. Cheesy, yes and I’m quite sure it never got me a date (that and the girls I winked to thought I had some nervous eye twitch.) On dating websites, winking is a completely different manner. Like in the real world it is aimed to indicate interest to the person your winking to. For men, winking is a bad thing, but for women it seems to be a good thing. Read the rest of this entry »
Squeak Law
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating on November 12, 2009

You lose points when when you’re late for a first date. During the date you’re responsible for making amends for being tardy. Squeak Law did not do this at all. This possible B-Lister (she looked cute in her photo’s, worked as a lawyer, and a strong independent woman) quickly tumbled to a C even before the date began. She was 20 minutes late. She did prevent a walk out when she texted an apology and that she was her way, 13 minutes past the scheduled dating time. When the postponed date began, she didn’t offer any significant reason for being late. She didn’t mention it until I asked her “so how was your day?” and received a “busy and that’s why I’m late,” response. I should have gotten a story, something exciting (like the mafia was holding her hostage but only released her because she was going out with me), something that would have given me some indication of her character. I got nothin’. Read the rest of this entry »
Dating Thru Twitter
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating on October 28, 2009

My OkCupid profile isn’t going so well. After two weeks of being revived I’m not getting responses to messages sent out. Some of this is my fault and the approaches I’ve taken to online dating. I’ve found it interesting that I’m drawing more interest thru my Twitter account as SCG than my actual dating profile. Come to think of it, I’ve had more success dating with my real Twitter accounts than any online dating site. This raises a set of interesting questions, such as what online dating means in today’s social media world? Read the rest of this entry »
My Online Dating Mistake
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating on October 27, 2009

When I say women should look outside of their dating preferences and date different type of men, I’m talking as both a guy scorned and as someone who makes the very same mistake. My online dating mistake, one eFlirt expert has called me out on, is seeking too many A Listers. I’m sending way too many messages to my top list while ignoring my B and C Lists. Why is this a mistake? Because I’m pigeon holding myself to one type of girl. That never works! Read the rest of this entry »


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