Tips for Men
Published On: July 2nd, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments
This guest post acts as a great follow up to “Tips To Make Your Dating Profile Interested” and written by blogger Emily Macintosh. Emily Macintosh writes the dating blog My Life On Match & More . She is a cute, 30-year-old, successful, LA-based online dater. Her stories are all true and some traumatizing!
Last week I went on two dates. I was excited about both. They both looked cute in their online profiles and it seemed like we had a few things in common. Oh, how pictures can be deceiving! Neither date looked ANYTHING like his picture online. One guy even told me that his picture was 10-years-old! So, to help you guys (and girls!) out there who are also in the online dating world, here are a few profile tips to help find you your real match. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Advice, My Life On Match, Online Dating, Profile Pic
Dating Resources
Published On: May 27th, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments
A week ago, I had the opportunity to interview Larry Wilson, the founder of Opposites Connect, a new online dating website with a very different approach to dating; finding your opposites. To many, the idea may seem counter intuitive, why would you seek the opposite of what you want? If you like cats, why would you search for someone who likes dogs? If your a Yankees fan, why would you ever data a Red Sox fan? The answer, it brings upon interesting conversation.
Larry referenced a recent post (Determine What You Can Handle While Dating), to help explain the concept. “Dating is built on conflict resolution,” he suggested, and further explained several problems with current dating websites. When you go on a date, conversation becomes a repetition of what is already known, and doesn’t lead to real conversation. Essentially the first date (or first meet-up) is a repetition of viewing their online profile. As Larry put it, “all we have found out was what we already know!” [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Websites, Online Dating, Preview
Dating Topics
Published On: May 21st, 2010 by Single City Guy | 3 Comments
Many people become frustrated when they can’t find their perfect match. The question I faced when I became frustrated was, what are you really seeking? One way to answer this question is, if you were blind what would you look for?
Some time ago, I was out with my friend, Laurie Davis (eFlirtExpert) for drinks and catching up. We discussed my dating travels and how I arrived at the point where I now have a girlfriend. We began to discuss my spell of frustration, where I choose to send messages to women and received little or no responses. The problem was, I choose women for the wrong qualities. I sought their looks and did not address the contents of their profile. She then asked the same question she asked me during my searches, “Why did you choose those women?” Honestly, I saw boobs, butts, and a cute face most of the time. In my searches, I forgot to choose personality. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Blind Love, How to be a better dater, Online Dating, Quality vs. Quantity
Dating Resources
Published On: May 15th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 1 Comment
Online dating is a very huge business. For many years, the process has been simple: create a profile, include a picture, pick people you like, go on a date. While the model has worked well for years, and has been upgraded with personality tests and compatibility factors, it’s very limited. There’s a claim that 1 in 5 singles are in a committed relationship with someone they met on a dating website, but this doesn’t make online dating any less frustrating and fruitless than it is. To help alleviate this frustration, websites began to focus on niche communities, such as JDate, but they follow in the same mold.
In both cases, there are success, and frustrations. I don’t believe online dating is as successful as advertise. I think the problem is, they focus on the who: who are you looking for, who is compatible with you, who fits you. There is a new generation of dating websites and services that focus on an important question, how. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Websites, Online Dating, Review
Dating Topics
Published On: March 26th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 1 Comment
A friend recently asked me “If your dating someone you met from a dating website, at which point should you remove your dating profile?” There isn’t a clear cut answer to this question. I don’t believe there’s a certain number of dates when profiles should be removed. Instead, removing profiles from dating sites has more to do with that status of your relationship with that person. The real question you should ask before removing a dating profile is, are the two of you exclusive? [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Profile, Online Dating, Removing Profiles
Dating Topics
Published On: January 14th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 2 Comments
Last week I asked women, if they read messages sent to them thru dating websites first, or if they take a look at the profile first. Last weeks poll results, comments and messages indicate, most women read the messages the receive first (49% of those polled). Second, I’m assuming, is taking a look at the profile (40%), and third tends to be the profile photo (under 11%). This means what you write to women matter the most! There are some additional items to keep in mind while dating online. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Profiles, Dating Tips, Online Dating, Understanding Women
Dating Topics
Published On: January 8th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 6 Comments
The one frustrating aspect of online dating is, the lack of responses. Often I would think of clever and unique things to say to a woman, but would never receive a response. It would become frustrating, especially after taking my time to create a properly crafted message. Even with the help of a dating coach, who crafts really elegant e-mails for me, I’m still at a loss. After targeting different women, tweaking my profile, I’m still laying a fat zero in the response department.
It frustrates me, after sending a handful of messages, I wouldn’t receive a response. I took a moment to look at the stats of my OkCupid account. I realized there was a huge disparity in the amount of profiles I’ve quick matched or noted (780) and the amount of messages I’ve sent (140). Not only am I not sending out enough messages, I’m not practicing the method of sending a message. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Tips, OkCupid, Online Dating, Practice
Dating
Published On: November 14th, 2009 by Single City Guy | 1 Comment
A while ago, I incorporated winking into my routine as a way to display interest in a woman. Cheesy, yes and I’m quite sure it never got me a date (that and the girls I winked to thought I had some nervous eye twitch.) On dating websites, winking is a completely different manner. Like in the real world it is aimed to indicate interest to the person your winking to. For men, winking is a bad thing, but for women it seems to be a good thing. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Tips, Online Dating, Winking
Dating
Published On: November 12th, 2009 by Single City Guy | 5 Comments
You lose points when when you’re late for a first date. During the date you’re responsible for making amends for being tardy. Squeak Law did not do this at all. This possible B-Lister (she looked cute in her photo’s, worked as a lawyer, and a strong independent woman) quickly tumbled to a C even before the date began. She was 20 minutes late. She did prevent a walk out when she texted an apology and that she was her way, 13 minutes past the scheduled dating time. When the postponed date began, she didn’t offer any significant reason for being late. She didn’t mention it until I asked her “so how was your day?” and received a “busy and that’s why I’m late,” response. I should have gotten a story, something exciting (like the mafia was holding her hostage but only released her because she was going out with me), something that would have given me some indication of her character. I got nothin’. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Bad Date, OkCupid, Online Dating
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