Dating Topics
Published On: May 21st, 2010 by Single City Guy | 3 Comments
Many people become frustrated when they can’t find their perfect match. The question I faced when I became frustrated was, what are you really seeking? One way to answer this question is, if you were blind what would you look for?
Some time ago, I was out with my friend, Laurie Davis (eFlirtExpert) for drinks and catching up. We discussed my dating travels and how I arrived at the point where I now have a girlfriend. We began to discuss my spell of frustration, where I choose to send messages to women and received little or no responses. The problem was, I choose women for the wrong qualities. I sought their looks and did not address the contents of their profile. She then asked the same question she asked me during my searches, “Why did you choose those women?” Honestly, I saw boobs, butts, and a cute face most of the time. In my searches, I forgot to choose personality. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Blind Love, How to be a better dater, Online Dating, Quality vs. Quantity
Dating Topics
Published On: May 4th, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments
Not every person is the right person for you. We all have different types of people that we would like to date. For example, I love mentally strong women who are willing to share their opinions. I rather the person I date speak their mind than engage in passive aggressive behavior to make their point. This doesn’t mean I want to be with some sort of dominatrix, or a military hard ass. My woman has to have some sass to her, and not easily offended by my off color jokes. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Tips, How to be a better dater, Qualities To Look For
Dating Topics
Published On: April 6th, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments
I’ve pointed the limited and narrow dating requirements women tend to seek in potential dates. Men tend to be more liberal, when it comes to physical characteristics, we are picky in other ways. I’ve always thought I needed a woman who loved sports as much as I do, when in actuality I needed a woman who understood my love for sports. It was the quality of the person that had given me the success I have, instead of a check list of requirements. I’m not suggesting all requirements be discarded, I’m merely saying they aren’t the primary focus. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Preferences, Dating Tips, How To, How to be a better dater, Quality vs. Quantity
Single Life
Published On: December 5th, 2009 by Single City Guy | 2 Comments
In the past two months, I’ve gone from completely dateless to juggling my calendar between upcoming singles events and dates. Why? Friends who I’ve met as SCG have referred me to other people, recommended events for me to attend, set me up on blind-dates, and have promoted me thru word of mouth (or re-tweets.) Not only do I thank my friends, I respect them dearly for their help. I respect these relationships and do my best to do right by them, as they have for me.
So how does this apply to dating? I have several friends who were great friends, and I cared about, but now tend to avoid. Most of them are female. While I think they are great and wonderful people, I often feel used by them and when hanging out, believe there’s an ulterior motive. My issue is the way they approach our friendships, some treat it as if we’re dating, others treat it like a business transaction. In both cases, there’s a tremendous amount of pressure to perform, but there aren’t any benefits. Often I feel used, guilted, and pressured to jump at a moments notice for their wishes, wants and needs. All of them are single, many unhappily. I believe their approach to friendships and other relationships have kept them single. For the women in this group, if it weren’t for their actions, I would make attempts to date them. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Methods, Dating Tips, Friends, How to be a better dater
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