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Things were becoming serious with Rule Breaker. There had been three dates and further plans to see each other soon. However, I had contracted her cold from an evening of kissing. I was happy and content, even though I was sick. While I was lying in bed, my phone beeped; a text message had arrived. I thought it was was rule breaker providing some form of encouraging feel better message. It was not. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Ever have a date return after a period of silence. It’s almost as if they feel you’re waiting around for their message when they decide to reappear. Ex-Party Girl has returned from the fade. While I was out at the club Saturday night, celebrating a birthday, XPG sends me a picture message. It was completely PG, but an inside joke that reminded her of me. A part of me believes she was holding onto it for a bit to send my way.
The situation made me wonder a moment, why did she choose now to send this message. Especially in the evening on Saturday? A part of the situation felt like a booty call. This was odd, usually I hear this sort of story from my female friends, but very rarely from the guys. Women reappearing out of thin air after weeks of silence isn’t new, but I don’t have much history with this situation. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
My dating life has turned into a slow churn, understandable for this time of the year. The holiday season makes everyone go a bit insane. Lines of communication are dropped, focuses are elsewhere, and work is hectic. While it happens, I’ve always assumed the fade would be a lot harsher or a lot respectable when it would occur. The fade (or fadeout) is when you slowly stop communicating with the person your dating. In the case of Ex-Party Girl, I’m seeing the beginning of “the fade” and I’m neither hurt nor relieved. I’m taking a very Zen like approach to it, the fade happens for many reason. This one started around Thanksgiving. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
I really have underestimated Ex-Party Girl (XPG), she’s slowly becoming more than I thought she would, but quickly becoming a friend. Yes, she’s entering my friend zone. The third date is usually the do or die date, where a kiss or something would happen. It didn’t happen on my 3rd Date (or if you’re counting the 2nd real date.) I called the dating coach for some pre-date advice and understood what I had to do, this time I had to be flirty and see how she react to it. However we ended up doing the same thing we’ve done on the past two dates and that’s talk and ask each other questions. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
I’m willing to admit when I make a mistake, and I think I was about to make a mistake with ex-party girl. When we went out for our pre-date, I wasn’t too attracted to her but there was something there. Her pictures on OkCupid didn’t help out her cause too much. She’s not a 10, but definitely not a 5, she hovers around a 6 and 7, which in my opinion is C List territory. On our first-date (second meeting), I was reminded why I like this girl, it’s her personality, the ability to have a great conversation, and we really get along. I like being able to be honest with someone and to be myself; she allows me to do all of these things. But… [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
After my date with the Ex-Party Girl, I was disturbed by a my thoughts afterwards. While I am still on the fence concerning any future relationship with her, a few really horrible thoughts crept into my mind. I did feel guilty for having them. It’s clear a part of me feels as if I’m settling (I hate that word) and another part feels I can’t do better. Chalk not having super hot women on my first few dates and a battered self esteem. As bad as I felt these thoughts were, its clear to me we’ve all had them to varying degrees. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
My first OkCupid date was with an upstate 24 year old woman who loved to party and enjoys sports. This may sound like a recipe for a bimbo on paper, she’s actually a very smart and interesting personality. Look wise I wasn’t to excited, she’s a tall girl (which I love) but has a few extra in areas that are unflattering and don’t scream “take me, I’m tall and sexy!” Her personality and attitude bump bumped her from being some average C lister to a possible B (outside of the sports and partying.) Although I wasn’t thrilled it was enough to warrant a date.
The date was fairly average. I was following every first date rule (1 beer, an hour and a-half max), but we were getting along very well it warranted a 2nd beer and an extra half hour. Talking with her was fairly easy, and she had some very interesting stories, but seeing her in person I wasn’t completely attracted to her. I’m very unsure about Ex-Party Girl, I’m not even sure that’s the best way to describe her. She’s a bit complex, has an attitude, and while there wasn’t any super exciting moment, there were several interesting points enough to warrant a second date.
I think, she’s falling into the friend zone, but I’m very unsure.
