Posts Tagged Dating Tips
Be A Man, MAN!
Posted by Single City Guy in Tips for Men on February 18, 2010
Here’s a reminder to the guys out there, step up and be a man, MAN! Women aren’t very attracted to the emo, shiny, Twilight, vampire, boys who chase after them. They want MEN! They want guys who acts like a man, treats situations like a man, is decisive like a man, and who isn’t sharing their cosmetics! So, put down the glitter and makeup, stow the fragrances aside and MAN UP!
This is often easier to say than do, we all forget this little fact. I forgot about acting as a man in a recent situation when my friend, @aussieinthecity, reminded me to man up. It’s not that I don’t act like a guy, or act manly, but when it comes to dating I find myself making some very non-man like decisions. I become too afraid of saying something wrong, or acting like an asshole. Instead of acting, I begin to over think, and every decision becomes another question. It would seem as if someone else had taken my balls and placed them on a mantle for me to stare at. Read the rest of this entry »
Persistence Gets The Date
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating on February 5, 2010
The old adage, “If you want it, you’ll fight for it,” holds a lot of weight in terms of dating. However, finding the right date involves more than just fighting, it involves being persistent, vigilant, and responsive. I experienced this truth thru attempting to meet a recent OkCupid responder. This woman, I’m dubbing, “Rule Breaker”. The story of Rule Breaker has many parts, this is the prologue, but more importantly, it’s a demonstration of a powerful dating lesson. Be persistent. Not overbearing, persistent. Read the rest of this entry »
If You Want It, You’ll Fight For It
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on January 27, 2010
During a recent iChat conversation on the Thread.com blog, the ultimate dating truism was mentioned; if you like someone, you’ll fight for them. Often this dating logic places the burden of truth on the shoulders of men. If we like a girl, we would make attempts to call her. We would reach out to her every moment we had, we walk the mile for her every time. If a guy really liked a woman, he would do his best to reach out to her.
While the advice is accurate it’s also adds unrealistic expectations, and allows women to live in a fantasy land. It doesn’t recognize the actual expectations of living in the real world. It also excuses them of any responsibility. I believe this truism goes both ways. If a woman really liked a guy, she has the same responsibilities to fight for his attention. Read the rest of this entry »
Women Seem To Read Messages On Online Dating Websites First
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on January 14, 2010
Last week I asked women, if they read messages sent to them thru dating websites first, or if they take a look at the profile first. Last weeks poll results, comments and messages indicate, most women read the messages the receive first (49% of those polled). Second, I’m assuming, is taking a look at the profile (40%), and third tends to be the profile photo (under 11%). This means what you write to women matter the most! There are some additional items to keep in mind while dating online. Read the rest of this entry »
Don’t Forget Yourself, Don’t Sacrifice Yourself
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating on January 13, 2010
How many times have you sacrificed yourself for someone else? Sometimes it’s rewarding, especially when the other person appreciates it. You performed a favor for them. Maybe they were a friend, family member, someone who appreciates you, your time, and appreciates what you’re doing for them. Sacrificing your time for a loved one and for a person is usually worth the effort and it strengthens the relationship. We don’t consider these sacrifices, more as favors, or something to do. Taking a Saturday afternoon off to have coffee with a friend to discuss a problem or to catch up is a sacrifice in time, but usually not seen as one if the two people are willing.
What about someone you’re dating, especially for the first time? Read the rest of this entry »
How Not To Be Late For a Date
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on January 11, 2010
Being late happens. Sometimes traffic accidents happen. Sometimes the MTA decides it wants to run as slow as molasses. Sometimes life just happens. Being late for a date isn’t the worst thing you can do, being late and NOT saying anything about it is the worse thing you can do. Here are some ways you can prevent being tardy for a date: Read the rest of this entry »
The Rules Are Meant To Be Bent!
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on January 10, 2010
Dating isn’t an exact science. There’s plenty leeway and flexibility that occurs, mainly because we’re all human, and not robots. If we were robots, our mate would be born at the exact date and time. At the most optimal time of procreation the two would perform the optimal act of copulation granting the highest success rate for replication. Yes, I’ve thought about this a lot.
The rules, such as who should approach first, or when you should go on a second date, or how long the first several dates should last are meant to be bent! The rules we’re given are guidelines; helpful indicators that help make the process comfortable. Read the rest of this entry »
Practice Make Perfect
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on January 8, 2010
The one frustrating aspect of online dating is, the lack of responses. Often I would think of clever and unique things to say to a woman, but would never receive a response. It would become frustrating, especially after taking my time to create a properly crafted message. Even with the help of a dating coach, who crafts really elegant e-mails for me, I’m still at a loss. After targeting different women, tweaking my profile, I’m still laying a fat zero in the response department.
It frustrates me, after sending a handful of messages, I wouldn’t receive a response. I took a moment to look at the stats of my OkCupid account. I realized there was a huge disparity in the amount of profiles I’ve quick matched or noted (780) and the amount of messages I’ve sent (140). Not only am I not sending out enough messages, I’m not practicing the method of sending a message. Read the rest of this entry »
The Women Who Make Me Smile
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating on January 4, 2010
Since I’ve started as SCG, I’ve met a few women who have made me smile. Every time I receive a message from them, a bit of bliss flows through my body. These are usually the women who I end up getting to know on a personal level, and often cross the panes of anonymity to actual names. Recently I’ve been thinking about these handful of women, and realize that in my life, before this blog, there’s been several others. I’ve also realized I’ve never dated any of them, and even stopped the potential for such things. Read the rest of this entry »
Positive Reinforcement
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on December 30, 2009
I had brunch with a friend who I haven’t seen in some time today. I detailed by recent dating history, and during one particular story said, “I screwed that up!” She quickly interrupted me and said, “You didn’t screw it up, say things didn’t work out!” It’s the same result, different perspective.
It seems the unhappier you are, the more single you become. Every act, mistake, and reasons for being single is magnified 100%. While there are many reasons for being single, they’re not aways our fault. Sometimes we’ve met the wrong person, or they weren’t ready for a relationship. To improve our dating chances, there’s only two things we can work out, ourselves and our attitude. Both rely on the other to survive. Read the rest of this entry »
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