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Effortlessly Approaching A Tall Woman

A very tall, beautiful woman sitting on the floor

Last week, while out with dating coach Thomas Edwards, I told him, “You’ll be really proud of me. The way I handle women now, in public spaces is completely different from when you first met me.” What I didn’t realize at the time, was how much I was going to prove myself te accuracy of that statement. It was Friday evening, and I was out with friends at a new, trendy midtown bar. The night had been good to me: drinks were had, I flirted with their co-workers (who at this point had left), and was ready for the continued, evening adventures. As things were wrapping up, a tall women passed the group. “Damn, she’s really tall! I wonder how tall she is?” my friend asked me. Even though she was merely being inquisitive, it made me consider, finding the answer to the question. I was now determined to find out how tall she was.

This would require an approach. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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How Many People Do You Date At The Same Time?

I’ve had some interesting conversations with friends and family this week about dating, in particular, the process of dating. As any adult can tell you, dating is often a complicated process that involves chasing, following, and keeping ones composure. With that said, the process often convoluted and requires flexibility. I often wonder, is that flexibility not focusing on just one person, but keeping open options. Meaning, during the dating process, do people often date more than one person at a time, or only focus on one person.

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It Takes Six Months To Maximize Your Dating Potential

Monthly progress charts

It takes about six months to determine if you’ll have any dating success. I know there are books that promise meeting women in 30 days, but that’s only a part of the formula. To achieve any real success with dating, it requires hard work, making many mistakes, and figuring out what works best for you. It took me about four and a half months to meet my current girlfriend. Readers of the blog know the process wasn’t easy at all. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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Dating Is Hot and Cold

Hot and cold faucet

No one ever says, dating very mercurial, especially in New York City. It’s always assumed. There are moments when dates appear out of the woodwork, other moments when buying a date from the most desperate people seems impossible. This causes much frustration. I’ve always assumed dating would be a consistent flow of dates on a weekly basis, but that’s never the case, especially with online dating. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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Be Honest With Your Date

A couple having an argument

There are millions of articles, websites, books and magazines dedicated to translating the hidden language of men. It’s not that we speak a hidden language, but we communicate differently than women. Generally we are seen as poor communicators, a fact I’m not inclined to dispute. Men are perceived as poor communicators because most of our communication relies on assumptions and actions instead of traditional verbalization. We speak, but don’t go into detail about every piece of our lives. The truth of the matter is we display our feelings differently than women, which causes plenty of confusion and frustration.

Women enjoy hearing our feelings and honest thoughts. The truth is more respectable than a lie or and more honorable than leading women to their own assumptions. A woman will often make assumptions based on our actions and their wants, regardless of they’re accurate. If we act as if we’re heading towards a long term relationship, when we’re just seeking sex, women will assume we’re working towards a long term relationship. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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It’s All About The Packaging

Nicely packaged gift

Blogging isn’t my first profession. In actuality, its something like my fifth. I tend to engage in many different projects and seem to always be working on something. Somehow, in my busy schedule, I manage to get everything done and maintain a social life (the secret is being flexible). It’s hard to explain the many things I do, without sounding like a workaholic. It causes a problem when I’m asked, “What do you do?’ especially when first meeting someone. For some time my answer was “everything, but Windows,” I’ve recently switched to Mac (some geek humor for you).

The way I answer this question has been horrible. I’ve needed to package myself differently. Going on these speed dating adventures has helped a lot. It forced me to cut out the unnecessary information and remove the unimportant things that have wasted time. When I was asked “What do you do?” I used to explain every nook and cranny, instead of saying, “I do x” or “oh I’m a x.” There’s no need to explain every detail, just get to the point. If they are interested, they will ask additional questions. It’s akin to wrapping a present, if the gift is important, most people would appropriate packaging. They want to open it. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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PR Model

Elie Saab Pret A Porter Pr-Eté 2009 - 2This is the most complex blog post I written about any date. As Single City Guy, I have the luxury of writing anonymously about my dates, remaining honest about how well they went, and not worry that my dates are going to read them. If they happen to stumble upon it by chance, I have the ability to deny it was me. This post is different, I do not have that luxury here. I’ve entered a situation where a woman who I’ve gone out with twice knows my dating alter-ego. Here’s how it happened.

Last weekend, I went on a NDD with @KB_in_NYC who suggested setting me up with a friend. Blind dates have never worked well for me, but I was convinced I had nothing to loose about and threw chance to the wind. We were introduced thru Twitter, but thanks to a series of mishaps, I was introduced as SCG. I’m sure it’s odd being introduced to an anonymous dating blogger as a blind date. For me it’s even worse, I’m faced with two choices: either write about the date and fear she’ll read it; or don’t write about the date, be dishonest to your readers, and deal with questions later. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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Introductions Are Hard

HandOne of my major dating flaws is approaching and introducing myself to women. I’m “old-school” when it comes to an approach; ask for their name, throw a compliment and work from there. In todays modern world, this approach is just as successful as using the line “Hi, nice shoes, lets fuck!” Most people suggest using an approach to gardner her interests into you as a person, such as displaying your humor, wit or intelligence. Afterwards it’s all up to you. I begin to falter right after gardening a person’s interests, usually when you tell the person your name, likes and dislikes.

A few of the reasons I falter is I get so wrapped into the conversation, I forget or take the opportunity to formally introduce myself; I become just another guy. Here’s perfect example, 5 posts in and I’ve yet to tell my readers (who seem to be predominantly female) anything about myself. I’ve dropped some hints but nothing direct. So it’s time to introduce myself. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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