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Be Honest With Your Date

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There are millions of articles, websites, books and magazines dedicated to translating the hidden language of men. It’s not that we speak a hidden language, but we communicate differently than women. Generally we are seen as poor communicators, a fact I’m not inclined to dispute. Men are perceived as poor communicators because most of our communication relies on assumptions and actions instead of traditional verbalization. We speak, but don’t go into detail about every piece of our lives. The truth of the matter is we display our feelings differently than women, which causes plenty of confusion and frustration.

Women enjoy hearing our feelings and honest thoughts. The truth is more respectable than a lie or and more honorable than leading women to their own assumptions. A woman will often make assumptions based on our actions and their wants, regardless of they’re accurate. If we act as if we’re heading towards a long term relationship, when we’re just seeking sex, women will assume we’re working towards a long term relationship. Read the rest of this entry »

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It’s All About The Packaging

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Blogging isn’t my first profession. In actuality, its something like my fifth. I tend to engage in many different projects and seem to always be working on something. Somehow, in my busy schedule, I manage to get everything done and maintain a social life (the secret is being flexible). It’s hard to explain the many things I do, without sounding like a workaholic. It causes a problem when I’m asked, “What do you do?’ especially when first meeting someone. For some time my answer was “everything, but Windows,” I’ve recently switched to Mac (some geek humor for you).

The way I answer this question has been horrible. I’ve needed to package myself differently. Going on these speed dating adventures has helped a lot. It forced me to cut out the unnecessary information and remove the unimportant things that have wasted time. When I was asked “What do you do?” I used to explain every nook and cranny, instead of saying, “I do x” or “oh I’m a x.” There’s no need to explain every detail, just get to the point. If they are interested, they will ask additional questions. It’s akin to wrapping a present, if the gift is important, most people would appropriate packaging. They want to open it. Read the rest of this entry »

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PR Model

Elie Saab Pret A Porter Pr-Eté 2009 - 2This is the most complex blog post I written about any date. As Single City Guy, I have the luxury of writing anonymously about my dates, remaining honest about how well they went, and not worry that my dates are going to read them. If they happen to stumble upon it by chance, I have the ability to deny it was me. This post is different, I do not have that luxury here. I’ve entered a situation where a woman who I’ve gone out with twice knows my dating alter-ego. Here’s how it happened.

Last weekend, I went on a NDD with @KB_in_NYC who suggested setting me up with a friend. Blind dates have never worked well for me, but I was convinced I had nothing to loose about and threw chance to the wind. We were introduced thru Twitter, but thanks to a series of mishaps, I was introduced as SCG. I’m sure it’s odd being introduced to an anonymous dating blogger as a blind date. For me it’s even worse, I’m faced with two choices: either write about the date and fear she’ll read it; or don’t write about the date, be dishonest to your readers, and deal with questions later. Read the rest of this entry »

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Introductions Are Hard

HandOne of my major dating flaws is approaching and introducing myself to women. I’m “old-school” when it comes to an approach; ask for their name, throw a compliment and work from there. In todays modern world, this approach is just as successful as using the line “Hi, nice shoes, lets fuck!” Most people suggest using an approach to gardner her interests into you as a person, such as displaying your humor, wit or intelligence. Afterwards it’s all up to you. I begin to falter right after gardening a person’s interests, usually when you tell the person your name, likes and dislikes.

A few of the reasons I falter is I get so wrapped into the conversation, I forget or take the opportunity to formally introduce myself; I become just another guy. Here’s perfect example, 5 posts in and I’ve yet to tell my readers (who seem to be predominantly female) anything about myself. I’ve dropped some hints but nothing direct. So it’s time to introduce myself. Read the rest of this entry »

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