I’m finding myself in a bit of a quandary. I believe women are receiving great messages from one on OkCupid, but aren’t responding to them. Messages by my dating coach and myself seem to have the same results. They do seem to be visiting my profile. While the message seems good enough to gardner some attention, they aren’t good enough for a response. I’m trying to figure out what the problem is here.

My thought is women may be looking at my profile first before the message, or reading the message than the profile to see if it’s worth responding to. So the question I have for women is this: when you received a message do you read the message first or view the profile first?

Women, feel free to answer the poll below or leave comments below.