Someone, interested in graphic design, told me they wanted to work for New Era Caps. I balked at the idea, and was quick to scuttle it. I immediately thought of the design of a fitted hat, “It’s just a hat with a logo!” I exclaimed to someone over e-mail, further describing that there’s little design in a fitted hat. I was immediately reminded that my perception of her idea, (working as a designer for a hat company), is as farfetched as someone writing a dating blog. I was being a hypocrite. I was quick to judge someone, based on what they wanted to do, instead of taking the extra step to learn more. I didn’t consider her reasons for wanting to design baseball hats. Maybe she had new concepts, ideas, thoughts into creating a certain hat style that people would wear. Maybe she was considering of making full outfits, of which a fitted baseball cap was an essential piece. Either way, the fact is, I jumped the gun, based on my own, wrong perceptions.
The example above isn’t unique, or different from what many other do, especially as it pertains to dating. Often we all jump to a wrong perception about a person, based on a characteristic that doesn’t speak at all, to the person and their personality. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
This story begins at my favorite bar where I choose to enjoy an afterwork, happy hour drink. When I arrived, I sat close to an attractive woman in an Bollywood styled outfit. Moments later we were discussing our jobs, life and pets. She made it clear her love for her dog and began to confide other personal information. She was a widow of 10 years and had been asked to marry an additional eight times. Each man was turned down and the engagement rings were kept. She joked she could make a display of the 9 rings; she never did. Despite the bright red flags and warning signs, I obtained her number and watched her leave the bar, thinking I would see her in a day or two. I wasn’t ready for what would happen next. 
