Posts Tagged Dating Advice
When Should You Consider Exclusivity?
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on March 10, 2010
SCG: I know this isn't a dating picture, per say, but it's a cool design from a clothing company!
Here’s a great question I’ve recently had to handle. When do you become exclusive with the person you’re dating? There isn’t a 20 date minimum to exclusivity, it’s more innate than that, it’s a feeling. That may be a “cop out” answer, but it’s the only logical answer.
There comes a point while dating that you know it’s time to give up on seeing anyone else. It’s when the thought of dating another person doesn’t feel right, where you don’t have any interests in another person. It’s also when that feeling isn’t forced upon you but develops naturally. Read the rest of this entry »
Be Honest With Your Date
Posted by Single City Guy in Tips for Men on March 10, 2010
There are millions of articles, websites, books and magazines dedicated to translating the hidden language of men. It’s not that we speak a hidden language, but we communicate differently than women. Generally we are seen as poor communicators, a fact I’m not inclined to dispute. Men are perceived as poor communicators because most of our communication relies on assumptions and actions instead of traditional verbalization. We speak, but don’t go into detail about every piece of our lives. The truth of the matter is we display our feelings differently than women, which causes plenty of confusion and frustration.
Women enjoy hearing our feelings and honest thoughts. The truth is more respectable than a lie or and more honorable than leading women to their own assumptions. A woman will often make assumptions based on our actions and their wants, regardless of they’re accurate. If we act as if we’re heading towards a long term relationship, when we’re just seeking sex, women will assume we’re working towards a long term relationship. Read the rest of this entry »
Making A Great Valentines Day Playlist
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on February 12, 2010
When I was younger, making a mixtape was one of the best gifts to give a girl on Valentine’s Day. It was thoughtful, required timing, creativity, and hours of planning. Days were spent waiting for a particular song to play on the radio to add it in your “perfect” collection of music. Today’s world of iTunes and pre-made Valentine’s Day Playlists has diluted the art of a “mixtape.” I believe it’s a great Valentine’s Day gift, if done right. It requires some thought, effort, and a willingness to be a bit cheesy. Read the rest of this entry »
The Return of Ex-Party Girl
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating on January 18, 2010
Ever have a date return after a period of silence. It’s almost as if they feel you’re waiting around for their message when they decide to reappear. Ex-Party Girl has returned from the fade. While I was out at the club Saturday night, celebrating a birthday, XPG sends me a picture message. It was completely PG, but an inside joke that reminded her of me. A part of me believes she was holding onto it for a bit to send my way.
The situation made me wonder a moment, why did she choose now to send this message. Especially in the evening on Saturday? A part of the situation felt like a booty call. This was odd, usually I hear this sort of story from my female friends, but very rarely from the guys. Women reappearing out of thin air after weeks of silence isn’t new, but I don’t have much history with this situation. Read the rest of this entry »
Learn About Emerging Dating Trends thru LoveNation
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Resources on January 7, 2010
Like fashion, dating trends tend to emerge over time such as interracial dating, cougars, and dating effeminate men. Many websites offer tips and tricks to these trends, but rarely do we get to hear a guy and girls side to the same topic. Enter LoveNation, a weekly web show hosted by my two friends Laurie Davis and Thomas Edwards. Both are dating coaches (eFlirtExpert and The Professional Wingman) and have teamed up for this interesting and unique show about dating. Read the rest of this entry »
Learn to Ignore the Wrong Women
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on December 22, 2009
There’s an assumption that every women is potentially the right woman. Most of the literature, tell us guys that a 10 is the type woman we want. We take classes, find new clothing, learn how to approach these amazing 10‘s, only to end up with poor quality women. Instead of seeking the right woman for us, we are drawn to the bad girls: the bitches, the sluts, the gold diggers, and so on. We end up with poor quality women, because we set our sights on their looks and ignore the substance. Read the rest of this entry »
Women Often Give Horrible Dating Advice About Men
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on December 17, 2009
I recently discussed how to find good sources of dating advice. I want to mention a topic that has irked me for some time. Often, when I talk to my female friends about the advice they’ve received from their girlfriends concerning men, I’m shocked. I’m never surprised when the advice is wrong, I’m surprised when the advice is unbelievably far fetched. I wish this was just the advice friends give each other, but this extends to dating bloggers, and magazines. Often the advice I read about us men, written by women is unbelievably incorrect, that I wonder if they are talking about men, or imaginary guys they’ve made up.
I’ll be fair, some women give great dating advice on men. Most do not. The reason is quite simple: they are women. Read the rest of this entry »
Check The Source of Your Advice
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on December 10, 2009
I’m very careful about whom I ask for dating advice. As much as I enjoy hanging with my boys, they aren’t the best source of good dating advice. I would ask a woman about attracting women before asking a guy. It makes sense, women understand women. On the other hand, women tend to get their advice from…other women! I think this is absurd. Asking another woman about men is like asking a mechanic about your leather seating. He may know how the leather seats in your car functions, but isn’t an expert. Ask him about your engine stalling and he can provide you with a dissertation. In dating, it seems we’re often willing to trust the advice of “non-experts.” Often people tend to be more confused and single. Read the rest of this entry »
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