Dating Topics
Published On: July 5th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 1 Comment
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Many women believe by showing up to a date, they are guaranteed a second date with the same person. However, showing up and having a conversation with your date, doesn’t guarantee a second date. If anything, you’re barely performing the minimum requirements for a date. Sitting across from a person and having a conversation doesn’t mean you’ve interacted. You’ve asked questions, he’s asked questions, and the date has turned into a job interview with food or drinks. You’re not leaving a memorable impression, instead you’re leaving a very sour and bland impression.
While getting to the first date is great, to guarantee a second or third date, you must make a memorable impression. Something that will separate you from the other women he’s dating. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Advice, How To, Memorable Dates
Dating Topics
Published On: April 9th, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments
“The guy I went on that date with texts me a lot, calls at least once a day. How do I tell him it’s not necessary without hurting him?” – Blown Up Phone
When a guy texts and calls a lot, he’s worried you may disappear. It means he likes you and afraid, not that he’s insane. His own insecurities have risen and taken over his thoughts, and all he can think about is “she’s going to disappear!”. When I’ve done in this in the past, most of the women have run away, and I’ve never heard from them ever again. I wish I was calmer in the process. There is a better way to handle this situation, while maintaining respect for him and yourself. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Calling Often, Dating Advice, Questions From Women, Understanding Men, When To Call A Woman
Dating Topics
Published On: April 5th, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments
“You know, I was looking for Yankees tickets, because I get a discount, but I couldn’t find any. The only one’s I found were Mets tickets. We should go to a baseball game together,” Rule Breaker said over the phone a few days ago. It made me smile and stilled my heart. She had been paying attention. While baseball isn’t my favorite sport (football and basketball come first), it’s baseball season and, as a date idea, I threw around going to a game with her. I hadn’t been to either of the new parks (Citi Field or the new Yankee Stadium), and would have liked to, especially with her. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Advice, Understanding Men, What To Look For
Dating Topics
Published On: April 1st, 2010 by Single City Guy | 1 Comment
It may seem silly to ask, but I believe it is a valid question. Everyone dates, but not everyone dates for the same reasons. When I began dating as SCG, I wanted to get my feet wet and possibly engage in a series of short term relationships. I needed to know what I was seeking, the qualities I really liked in a person and what I truly sought in a relationship. Thru my process, I knew my goal was to meet a quality woman, and enjoy my time with her. While the process didn’t happen as I would have liked, the end goal was met. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Advice, Tips, Why Date?
Dating Topics
Published On: March 19th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 2 Comments
When I started with Laurie Davis, she asked me who my cookie cutter woman was. What was she like? I rattled off a bit of superficial checklist items, she had to be tall, had to be into sports, and so on. My dream woman was the love child of Angelina Jolie, Megan Fox, Brooklyn Decker and Lucy Lu. This woman exists in two places, my dreams and fantasies. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Advice, Dating Mistakes, Dating Preferences, Gripes
Dating Topics
Published On: March 10th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 3 Comments
SCG: I know this isn't a dating picture, per say, but it's a cool design from a clothing company!
Here’s a great question I’ve recently had to handle. When do you become exclusive with the person you’re dating? There isn’t a 20 date minimum to exclusivity, it’s more innate than that, it’s a feeling. That may be a “cop out” answer, but it’s the only logical answer.
There comes a point while dating that you know it’s time to give up on seeing anyone else. It’s when the thought of dating another person doesn’t feel right, where you don’t have any interests in another person. It’s also when that feeling isn’t forced upon you but develops naturally. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Advice, Exclusive, Relationships, When To
Tips for Men
Published On: March 10th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 4 Comments
There are millions of articles, websites, books and magazines dedicated to translating the hidden language of men. It’s not that we speak a hidden language, but we communicate differently than women. Generally we are seen as poor communicators, a fact I’m not inclined to dispute. Men are perceived as poor communicators because most of our communication relies on assumptions and actions instead of traditional verbalization. We speak, but don’t go into detail about every piece of our lives. The truth of the matter is we display our feelings differently than women, which causes plenty of confusion and frustration.
Women enjoy hearing our feelings and honest thoughts. The truth is more respectable than a lie or and more honorable than leading women to their own assumptions. A woman will often make assumptions based on our actions and their wants, regardless of they’re accurate. If we act as if we’re heading towards a long term relationship, when we’re just seeking sex, women will assume we’re working towards a long term relationship. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Advice, Dating Techniques, Effective Communication, How To, Understanding Women
Dating Topics
Published On: February 12th, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments
When I was younger, making a mixtape was one of the best gifts to give a girl on Valentine’s Day. It was thoughtful, required timing, creativity, and hours of planning. Days were spent waiting for a particular song to play on the radio to add it in your “perfect” collection of music. Today’s world of iTunes and pre-made Valentine’s Day Playlists has diluted the art of a “mixtape.” I believe it’s a great Valentine’s Day gift, if done right. It requires some thought, effort, and a willingness to be a bit cheesy. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Advice, Gift Ideas, Mixtape, Valentine's Day
Dating
Published On: January 18th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 3 Comments
Ever have a date return after a period of silence. It’s almost as if they feel you’re waiting around for their message when they decide to reappear. Ex-Party Girl has returned from the fade. While I was out at the club Saturday night, celebrating a birthday, XPG sends me a picture message. It was completely PG, but an inside joke that reminded her of me. A part of me believes she was holding onto it for a bit to send my way.
The situation made me wonder a moment, why did she choose now to send this message. Especially in the evening on Saturday? A part of the situation felt like a booty call. This was odd, usually I hear this sort of story from my female friends, but very rarely from the guys. Women reappearing out of thin air after weeks of silence isn’t new, but I don’t have much history with this situation. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Advice, Ex-Party Girl, The Fade, What to do When She Returns
Dating Resources
Published On: January 7th, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments
Like fashion, dating trends tend to emerge over time such as interracial dating, cougars, and dating effeminate men. Many websites offer tips and tricks to these trends, but rarely do we get to hear a guy and girls side to the same topic. Enter LoveNation, a weekly web show hosted by my two friends Laurie Davis and Thomas Edwards. Both are dating coaches (eFlirtExpert and The Professional Wingman) and have teamed up for this interesting and unique show about dating. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Advice, Laurie Davis, LoveNation, Podcasts, Thomas Edwards
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