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Effortlessly Approaching A Tall Woman

Published On: May 23rd, 2011 by Single City Guy | 1 Comment

A very tall, beautiful woman sitting on the floor

Last week, while out with dating coach Thomas Edwards, I told him, “You’ll be really proud of me. The way I handle women now, in public spaces is completely different from when you first met me.” What I didn’t realize at the time, was how much I was going to prove myself te accuracy of that statement. It was Friday evening, and I was out with friends at a new, trendy midtown bar. The night had been good to me: drinks were had, I flirted with their co-workers (who at this point had left), and was ready for the continued, evening adventures. As things were wrapping up, a tall women passed the group. “Damn, she’s really tall! I wonder how tall she is?” my friend asked me. Even though she was merely being inquisitive, it made me consider, finding the answer to the question. I was now determined to find out how tall she was.

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Has The iPod Destroyed Men’s Chances In Meeting Women?

Published On: May 6th, 2011 by Single City Guy | 6 Comments

A woman sitting on a bend, with headphones

One of the biggest frustrations of approaching a women in public, are the little white ear buds in their ears. Many female friends have told me, the iPod has helped fend off obnoxious men from approaching them while in public. It has also hurt good guys, who would be willing to approach them in public as well. It’s hard not to notice how many people, have iPods while on the train or in public. In many ways, that they are listening to music makes them seem unapproachable. This has led to the question, among several friends, of whether the iPod destroyed the chances of public hookups.

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Who Should Approach First?

Published On: March 23rd, 2011 by Single City Guy | 8 Comments

The conversation about women or men approaching first, has been well covered by this blog. I’ve often stated that women should be more proactive in approaching men. While, I’ve noticed women, taking a more active stance in approaching men, the debate resumes “Who should approach first?” It’s the topic of this week’s poll question and the topic of an upcoming blog post. Whom do you believe should be the first to approach, or should people just get on with it and ask out who they like?

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Places To Meet Women, That Don’t Include The Bar

Published On: February 25th, 2011 by Single City Guy | 3 Comments

A latte with a design

It seems, guys forget one important fact to meeting women. They are everywhere. They are on the street, on the train, on the bus, in cars, in planes; they are in cafe’s, at the buffet, and quite possibly walking your way. Poor rhyming scheme aside, the point is, it’s not hard to find a woman. Men need to think outside of the bar or the club as the only places to meet one. The reason it seems easy to meet women at a bar, is because it’s a comfortable environment, with very little expectations. To best meet women, you need to begin with an environment you’re comfortable with. There’s many comfortable spaces that don’t involve the bar, here’s a few I suggest.

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Stop Performing Risk Management On The Non-Essential

Published On: January 18th, 2011 by Single City Guy | 2 Comments

Upside Down "Falling People" Sign

In business, there’s a need to asses risk, thru cataloging, measuring and quantifying many different factors and variables. This is used to determine the value of making one business transaction compared to another; hiring an employee with a criminal record; or merging with another company. Risk management is needed, if not appropriate in these scenarios, there are jobs on the line, markets that could fall if a major industry powerhouse topples (think “To Big To Fail”), and products that could cease to exist.

When applies to dating, it seems the important risk factors (i.e. “Do you have a condom?”), are well overlooked for non-essential or petty items (i.e. “should I send her a message?”) Far too often are we mitigating risks on items that don’t matter. We are more scared of rejected via text message, over potential infection. The risks we evaluate aren’t real risks, they are fears, and we should never base our actions on fear! [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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Confidence Is Like Wearing Your Teams Jersey

Published On: October 11th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 2 Comments

FIFA 2010 South African Football / Soccer Jersey

Football is an emotional sport, whether your playing or watching. As a fan, your team gets one chance a week to show how good they are against another team. Unlike other sports, if your team losses, they have to wait another week to redeem themselves. Week 1 of this NFL season was a let down, the New York Jets suffered a 1-point loss to the Baltimore Ravens, looking inept, scared, and nothing like the Super Bowl caliber team they wanted to become. Week 2 was even scarier for me, as I sat at a midtown sports bar, wearing my Darrelle Revis jersey, waiting for my team to play. I was proud about my green and white, but scared of the outcome. When the Jets trounced the hated Patriots, it was an exciting feeling. No one could bring me down, my team won.

As I exited the sports bar, a couple commented about the jersey. “I like your jersey, that’s a great number!” I talked with them for a moment about the team and the game, and then we went out separate ways. While I waited for a train ride to another location, another person commented about the Jets win. While walking out of the train station, someone held his hand up for a high-five. I randomly high-fived a stranger, without missing a step, as I continued on my path. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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Rejection Isn't The End Of The World

Published On: May 12th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 1 Comment

Rejection notice

Handling rejection is the most difficult aspect to dating. One of the reasons men and women hesitate from approaching is their own fear being rejected. Approaching a woman lays on the shoulder of us men, and having a woman tell us “no’ is a huge reason why we suffer from approach anxiety. It’s also the reason we act awkward when approaching a woman, we don’t know what to do.

Approaching a woman is simple if you keep two things in mind: first, act as a normal human being and second, don’t be scared of being told no. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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Nice Guys CAN Finish First

Published On: November 8th, 2009 by Single City Guy | No Comments

Nice GuyThe adage “nice guys finish last” is more of an excuse for those nice guys who haven’t figured out how to attract women. While it may be true that nice guys don’t get as much attention as the bad-boy type, it’s because the nice guys hinder their own chances. I’m talking from experience here. During a recent trip, I’ve discovered a few ways nice guys can get the attention of A List women at bars and clubs while maintaining the status as a nice guy. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]

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