Posts Tagged Advice
Don’t Forget Yourself, Don’t Sacrifice Yourself
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating on January 13, 2010
How many times have you sacrificed yourself for someone else? Sometimes it’s rewarding, especially when the other person appreciates it. You performed a favor for them. Maybe they were a friend, family member, someone who appreciates you, your time, and appreciates what you’re doing for them. Sacrificing your time for a loved one and for a person is usually worth the effort and it strengthens the relationship. We don’t consider these sacrifices, more as favors, or something to do. Taking a Saturday afternoon off to have coffee with a friend to discuss a problem or to catch up is a sacrifice in time, but usually not seen as one if the two people are willing.
What about someone you’re dating, especially for the first time? Read the rest of this entry »
How to Be a Nice Guy WITHOUT Finishing Last
Posted by Single City Guy in Tips for Men on December 14, 2009
This week’s Tips For Men, comes the eFlirtExpert, Laurie Davis! Laurie is an amazing dating coach, and co-hosts a weekly web show LoveNation! Readers of SCG can also get a 15% off of eFlirt Expert’s services, just mention Single City Guy sent you! Full disclaimer: I’m currently a client of Laurie’s (and highly recommend her!)
We’ve all heard the adage “nice guys finish last”. Unfortunately, sometimes it is true. What can be done to protect yourself against Too Nice Syndrome? How can you be nice and finish first? The eFlirt expert is here to help.
Women want a nice guy with an edge, not a nice guy who is a push over. It’s a fine line but if you can achieve the perfect balance, you will be completely irresistible to the female gender. One tip? Women want to feel cute and sexy. Guys often get so caught up impressing their date with sweet gestures that they don’t make her feel like a sexy mama, too! Needless to say … Read the rest of this entry »
The Truths Behind Long Distance Relationships
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating on December 8, 2009
Long distance relationships seem less taboo and more feasible in the todays modern world. Travel is relatively fast, it takes roughly 6 to 8 hours to fly from the East Coast to the West Coast. In a recent flight to Cleveland, it took me roughly 2 hours to travel from city to city, that’s some people’s daily commuting time in NYC. I’ve seen plenty of successes in initiation of long distance relationships (LDR’s), but very little success in the long-term maintenance required of any relationship. Everyone who begins a long-distance relationship believes it can work. No one ever tells you is the amount of energy and stress it takes to maintain one. It takes more energy than a traditional relationship. This doesn’t mean it’s not feasible, but you need to prepare for a rough road ahead. Read the rest of this entry »
Make a Man Know You Want Him
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on December 1, 2009
Over the last month, my e-mail has become inundated with dating advice about guys. This isn’t a bad thing, I encourage it! Feel free to send more! There is a disturbing tend I’m seeing, this is a woman’s unwillingness to let a guy know that she wants him. I’m sure many women think they are showing a guy that she likes him by being flirty or by responding to calls or texts, but the signals you’re sending aren’t clear. If you like a guy you have to let him know that you want him or he’ll find someone who he’s sure wants him.
Know When To Push
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on September 30, 2009
An annoying trait women have is the need to push for a definition of a relationship shortly after meeting them. This stems from a recent interaction with someone I’ve just met. Her fear is “guys” inability to commit to a relationship, a typical myth many women have. Believe it or not, most men have a long term plan relationship plan, but our incessant need to have sex immediately sends very mixed messages. Men generally work with a timeline, a set of conditions, or some general rules. Pushing us to that timeline and rules will result in complete and utter failure. Read the rest of this entry »
Personality is VERY Important but…
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on September 23, 2009
I came across Moxie’s recent post about personality and looks on “…And That’s Why Your Single” and could not help but to write a response post after reading some of the comments. Women, let me be honest, we look with our eyes first, but you do the same damn thing. Moxie is completely correct when she says:
like all of us, has pushed aside someone with the great personality because they didn’t do it for her in the looks department. How many of us have blown someone off without even giving them a chance just because that initial spark was there, despite the fact that had “a great personality.”
How do I know? I’ve been passed up for a better looking guy with the personality of a doornail. If there’s any consolation, I’ve been told that relationship lasted only two weeks. Read the rest of this entry »
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