What’s Wrong With Me?

“To be frank with you, I’m ridiculously surprised that your response rate has been so low.  Your cute, your profile is good…,” was the first few lines of Laurie’s response concerning my lack of success with OkCupid. Even with the increased message count, I wasn’t receiving many responses. I feel I’ve become the ultimate dating enigma.

I like OkCupid, but maybe the population on the website isn’t geared for me. Laurie suggested that I switch over to Plenty of Fish, or as I like to call it Plenty of Fail! I’m not a fan of their dating website, it’s horribly put together, ugly, and not ad deep as OkCupid. However my lack of major success on the website leaves me little alternatives.

As I try to rationalize moving from one website to another, I do my best to stall by going out, trying some of the tips Thomas shows me. Nothing is really working, it’s clear I need more help. Every so often there’s a glimmer of hope, maybe a girl who would open up to me, give me her number after a late night discussion at a bar. Maybe the girl who was biting my neck while my hand grabbed her butt underneath her pants would want spend the rest of the evening with me. She doesn’t. These glimmer of hopes aren’t glimmers, they’re me spiraling out of control in frustration while consuming way too much alcohol. I’m trying to make up with failures with additional failure.

I sit back and examine Laurie’s comment. It only leads to more questions, why haven’t I been getting the type of response from women if I’m cute, have a good profile, and using the same techniques that work for everyone else? What’s wrong with me?

Outside of my mistakes, it’s these questions I feel are turning me into a dating enigma.

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