I Was Too Quick To Judge

I’m willing to admit when I make a mistake, and I think I was about to make a mistake with ex-party girl. When we went out for our pre-date, I wasn’t too attracted to her but there was something there. Her pictures on OkCupid didn’t help out her cause too much. She’s not a 10, but definitely not a 5, she hovers around a 6 and 7, which in my opinion is C List territory. On our first-date (second meeting), I was reminded why I like this girl, it’s her personality, the ability to have a great conversation, and we really get along. I like being able to be honest with someone and to be myself; she allows me to do all of these things. But…

Our first date went pretty well, after not being able to locate each other on the Manhattan side of the Brooklyn Bridge (we were on opposite sides of the street), we began our date by walking over the bridge. This was the first time I’ve done this with any girl, but it provided an opportunity to walk and talk, I pointed out a few things to her (I completely forgot to point out the Brooklyn light building.) It was cool, simple, and it allowed the both of us to decompress from a long day. Afterwards we went to a place I know in DUMBO for food and drinks.

A few things came up here, first we both like each other. She finds me dateable (which is great!) and attractive (which is even more awesome), but she has some additional questions and concerns for me. I’m in the same position, I think she’s cool and I have an attraction to her, but have my own set of concerns and hesitations. We were honest about how this could and should proceed, forward but with caution. I like that position, being that, dating wise, I’m still trying to figure a lot out, I need some time to gather my own thoughts before this (potentially) turns into a serious relationship.

I did make some mistakes however. I found myself not kissing her, not even on the cheek. I think I should have done that. We hugged but I felt a bit awkward thinking about it, or even doing it: 1) Because I locked up (to kiss, don’t kiss?) and 2) we just had a conversation about how we’re both unsure how to proceed. The second mistake was trying to rush her away. We both took the same train and got off at the same spot. She lives near the train stop, I had to wait for another train. She waiting for me when I totally expected her to go her merry way. So we hugged twice. It was an awkward moment but a good awkward moment.

Ex-party girl has gone from C lister to a low-B-List, she’s a quality woman. you don’t turn down quality women. There’s more to her than meets the eye and I expect to see more in time. Right now my feeling about her is “we’ll see.”