Comments on: Disturbing Post-Date Thoughts

By: In_Singledom

In_Singledom — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 19:11:03 +0000

In all fairness to you, I believe alot of us have experienced these feeling post first date/meeting and out of kindness hope probably done a 2nd date or more. My experience which could just be unique to me, if you’re feeling the same way with this person after a 2nd meeting, step away from the vehicle, say nice to have met you but!

I firmly believe everyone deserves that 2nd chance to make a first impression, but I find that i know within the 1st 10 minutes of meeting someone if I would want to see them again.

That is why I go with what I call a “1st meeting” prior to a “1st date” proper. Maximum 30 mins, somewhere casual yet safe for both, each comes as they are “work clothes etc.” and that way you’ve both just invested 30 mins of your life and a cup of java, and if you both enjoyed it, plan that all stressful all important “1st date”.

So really you’re making a dating judgement after a 2nd meeting.

Good luck

By: Single City Guy

Single City Guy — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 18:47:36 +0000

@Amber Hummm… I had not really thought of it that way, although, not completely sure if this girl would be up for a casual thing.

By: maruskamorena

maruskamorena — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 17:58:00 +0000

To be honest, it doesn’t sound like you’re ready for any big commitment. So relax.

You’ll know its right when you don’t think its settling, you’re thinking “OMG I don’t want to lose her”.

Until that point though, you don’t know what will happen. So go on a second date. You don’t have to decide right now if she’s the one. Just have some fun.

By: Amber

Amber — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 15:04:49 +0000

Here’s another thought: Why not just have fun and let it be casual?

By: J

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 14:57:33 +0000

Don’t feel like as asshole. These are normal post-date thoughts, for men and women. Seriously, dude, go on a second date. If you are unsure, then stop dating her. At least, you won’t be thinking “what if?”