Women Often Give Horrible Dating Advice About Men

I recently discussed how to find good sources of dating advice. I want to mention a topic that has irked me for some time. Often, when I talk to my female friends about the advice they’ve received from their girlfriends concerning men, I’m shocked. I’m never surprised when the advice is wrong, I’m surprised when the advice is unbelievably far fetched. I wish this was just the advice friends give each other, but this extends to dating bloggers, and magazines. Often the advice I read about us men, written by women is unbelievably incorrect, that I wonder if they are talking about men, or imaginary guys they’ve made up.

I’ll be fair, some women give great dating advice on men. Most do not. The reason is quite simple: they are women.

Men aren’t very complex, we often do not over analyze and over think our decisions. It’s what gets us into trouble, sometimes we don’t think! I believe women provide horrible dating advice to give women the answer they would like to hear. We guys do the same thing, but we’re blunt about it. If we’re rejected by a girl, some guy friends would say, “she’s a bitch” or “she’s a whore,” instead of “maybe she’s not into you!” I’m not saying that’s right either, but we end the conversation and move on. Women do not do this.

Women tend to analyze the male mental structure, picking apart any and every decision. I was at the bar a few days ago, and I was listening to one woman give her friend advice that didn’t make sense. She was helping convince her friend the reason her boyfriend enjoyed time alone and felt a bit distant in their relationship, was because he followed the example of his parents. They seemed to do their own thing, as her parents did everything together. She convinced herself that this was the reason they were struggling in their relationship, not the fact that he was displaying homosexual tendencies or signs that he was no longer interested in her. This is what I call batshitcrazy advice!

Another piece of crazy advice I’ve read states that we indicate our long term interests based on how we hold our beer bottle, stand at the bar, and even have a secret sign language while talking to a woman. Even our shopping habits are indicators what we think about relationships. Never has the purchase between a pair of jeans from The Gap or Diesel been an indication of my commitment to the person I’m dating. The fact that this advice is dispensed to women is silly from the start. You can’t determine my interests on the position of my beer bottle or the brand of my jeans. It’s the pattern of my actions.

Lets get a few things straight. Women, many (if not all) don’t know how we think. You were not raised to be a man, think like a man, or act like a man. So stop trying to tell your friends what he’s thinking. It’s like getting dating advice from a fortune cookie! Most likely, it will be useless and you’ll be given a few lucky numbers and a new word to learn. If you need to know anything about a guy, ask a guy! He will, more often than not, point you in the right direction!

There’s plenty of advice women can give other women that will help them date men. Fashion tips, places to find men, even tips on how to better please a guy are things that women do a great job in the advice department. Giving advice based on what we’re thinking or doing, isn’t going to work out as well.

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