Women Must Respect Men
There are common themes that emerge when I read many other dating blogs, women taking their hostility out on men. We’re often reminded why men are jerks, horrible assholes, and why a guy isn’t suited for female standards. This stems from the perceived notion that women aren’t finding their perfect guy, and slamming men for the bad decisions in men they date. This is an ultimate sign of disrespect, almost as if women don’t think a good, valuable guy exists for them.
We all known men can be assholes, but women can be bitches. While it’s okay to remind some guys that they are jerks, women don’t need to remind every man they meet. Sure every guy thinks about sex, but this isn’t a bad thing. Women seem to think about sex more than we do. It’s true, if we like you, we are willing to have sex with you on the first night. If were offered the opportunity, we will act on it, but who wouldn’t? If you find someone attractive, wouldn’t you want to seem them naked immediately? When women consistently slam men for the these little things, they disrespect us. Women are just as bad as men, and they need to recognize their flaws.
Many women have impossible standards men must live up to. However these standards aren’t realistic, or will rarely find you the right man. Women have to take a look in the mirror and honestly evaluate themselves, and determine if the men they are seeking are realistic dating choices or are they fooling themselves. If a guy doesn’t live up to your high standards it doesn’t give you the right to disrespect him! Some of us guys try very hard to gain your affection, but it’s harder than it seems most times.
Have some respect for the men your dating. Respect their attempts, their approaches, and cut the cynicism! Some guys deserve the abuse, but most don’t.
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“If you find someone attractive, wouldn’t you want to seem them naked immediately?” Ummm, I would hope we’d have a little more control over our impulses? Actually, what worries me more is the men who want to have sex the first night who ARE NOT attracted to the woman. Yes, lowlifers, to be sure, but they exist. I do agree the overly harsh male-bashing needs to be dialed back. Women are becoming far too bitter and jaded and when their hearts are filled with such negativity, there’s no room for light and hope.
Amen.
“If you find someone attractive, wouldn’t you want to seem them naked immediately?”
Not really. But I agree on the rest of your post. And when you talk with girlfriends as a woman it often is too easy to start bashing men just because it has become such a habit. I do think many girls do not believe what they’re saying deep-down. Or maybe I’m the only one who doesn’t.
Ah so true… I am as guilty as any woman of man-bashing!
It’s definitely true that we often have impossible standards, and it is very easy for us to forget that you guys must indeed work very hard to gain our affections. And I do try to cut them slack for being nervous and pressured. If anything, I empathize. I am hardly Miss Smooth myself when it comes to interacting with the opposite sex — not by a long shot. So I’d like to think that most of my bashing is actually just making light of very undesirable situations. :)
At the same time, I think that a lot of this bashing phenomenon stems from the inherent structure of dating and gender relations. When social customs dictate that men are suitors and that women receive and choose to accept/refuse their advances, women are, by default, put in a position to critique and “bash,” if you will, their men-suitors from a strategically advantageous position.
I’m not saying that women are blameless, but I think that most of us less bitchy ones bash without meaning it that much… at least I would hope so!
Haha… I feel like this post was written in a response to one of my emails :) Tsk, tsk… using your emails as fuel for posts, bad you! :)
Yes. Totally agree. But can’t deny the fact that women in general are getting further ahead compared to men in many areas in life. Therefore, there is less respect for men.
However, I agree that women must learn to be less critical. Myself included.
What’s an example of this? I don’t think that women or men are getting further ahead in many areas of life – I think it’s just a matter of prospective.
I live in Asia. I have colleagues in various Asian countries who are successful professionals. The general trend we notice is that its harder and harder to find guys who has the same lifestyle or are as affluent as us.
The typical guy type we know are non ambitious, non motivated, plays computer games during free time and does not have the same lifestyle.
Really, its very difficult to admire men who are couch potatos/comp gamers after work and don’t think and make plans about the future.