Why Are You Dating?

It may seem silly to ask, but I believe it is a valid question. Everyone dates, but not everyone dates for the same reasons. When I began dating as SCG, I wanted to get my feet wet and possibly engage in a series of short term relationships. I needed to know what I was seeking, the qualities I really liked in a person and what I truly sought in a relationship. Thru my process, I knew my goal was to meet a quality woman, and enjoy my time with her. While the process didn’t happen as I would have liked, the end goal was met.

I started dating for relationships. Short term relationships can easily turn into something permanent. My reasons for dating differ from other’s; I find many date for sex, other’s for companionship, and the rest – just because. I assume some bloggers date to blog, instead of blogging about their dating experience. Everyone has their reasons for dating, but I find many become discouraged because their results aren’t compatible with their reasons.

We know 1 +1 = 2. We also know that 10 – 8 = 2. However 1 – 1 and 10 + 8 equal completely different numbers (0 & 18 respectively). While you may have the numbers right, your method of computing them produce completely different results. The same works for dating, you may have the right elements in place, but if you’re seeking a relationship, yet acting as if you only want sex then you’re not going to end up in a relationship. Relationships aren’t born out of friends with benefits, and the opposite isn’t true either.

Ask yourself, why are you dating? Then ask yourself if your methods of dating will achieve the results you’re seeking.

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