Comments on: The Reasons Men Text Instead of Call

By: Marie Aurap

Marie Aurap — Mon, 28 Jun 2010 04:44:52 +0000

I fully agree with JJ. I have often told a guy I don’t text only to end up receiving various texts from him. I am anything but demanding and do not expect (or have time for) a call on a daily basis from a man I am just getting to know. However, once or twice a week seems reasonable. This gives people a chance to make plans and just see how things are going for the other person. When did we women begin to expect so little and think so poorly of ourselves that we accept whatever little crumbs of male attention that come our way?? We deserve better. A phone call is non-negotiable. It is a basic. A must. If he cannot MAN UP and pick up the phone, he is not a grown-up and, therefore, not worthy of your trust or time. Men pretend they want to be heroes. When we have the guts to say that a hero should learn how to pick up the phone and input the digits, then he is mortally wounded. If he wants to be thought of as a hero, he has to DO something to earn it.

By: Richelle

Richelle — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 21:29:20 +0000

Maybe you should include “he’s just not that into you”

By: Single City Guy

Single City Guy — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 00:15:06 +0000

@JJ I think you really need to disassociate that sort of connection. Plenty of men who text more than call aren’t liars or players! They may just be gadget geeks.

By: jj

jj — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 17:07:02 +0000

I associate guys who text as their primary form of communication as players and liars. I have noticed that guys who are not daily texters have the attention plan for a relationship, while guys who text are more likely to be looking for the next new cute thing. The whole Tiger Woods thing just reinforced that perception. Even worse, when I tell a guy that I don’t text, and he keeps forcing texts on me. I assume the following: (1) he doesn’t listen (2) he doesn’t care (3) he is irritating and needs way too much attention.

By: GlamourGirl

GlamourGirl — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 13:34:06 +0000

I originally hated all the texting because it forced immediacy and it seemed less intimate, but now I realize in the dating world it is a must. The only drawback, when you do talk on the phone the first time and his voice sounds like the alien from American Dad, high pitched and feminine. Immediate turn off, and makes you wish you talked on the phone immediately.

By: girltrueheart

girltrueheart — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 03:18:16 +0000

I like the honesty of what you write. I also don’t like to talk on the phone much. However, emotions are in the tone of voice. Without them, unless we’re all professional writers, we leave the words open to interpretation and potential miscommunication. Text and email are great at times, but when we really want to be certain of conveying our emotions, we should use our voice. If we don’t risk rejection (emotions), we don’t risk intimacy.