Single City Guy

Over the last month, my e-mail has become inundated with dating advice about guys. This isn’t a bad thing, I encourage it! Feel free to send more! There is a disturbing tend I’m seeing, this is a woman’s unwillingness to let a guy know that she wants him. I’m sure many women think they are showing a guy that she likes him by being flirty or by responding to calls or texts, but the signals you’re sending aren’t clear. If you like a guy you have to let him know that you want him or he’ll find someone who he’s sure wants him.

One way is by initiating some sort of physical contact, such as leaning into him and kissing him. This may seem like the guys job, but sometimes we are unsure. Let a guy know you like him by initiating a kiss, but first develop some physical contact by leaning into his body. You can even wrap your arm around his, the effect would be the same. The kiss, doesn’t have to be a hot passionate kiss on the lips, it can be a gentle peck on the cheek. Either way, he’ll get the message.

Another way is by saying it. Women love to hear the “L” word, but we like to hear the “l” word. The little “l” means like. “I really like you,” or “I like being around you” or “I’m enjoying the time we spend with each other,” are all ways you’re letting a guy know you want him. You’re saying exactly what he wants to hear, you enjoy your time with him and would like to spend more time around him.

Initiate a phone call. Yes ladies, call him! Women seem to hate this bit of advice, because they always want the man to call. Stop being silly! Put yourself in his shoes, if you’re always calling someone and they are never calling you back, what’s the point? Missed calls do not count, you’re returning a call he initiated. Begin to initiate some phone calls, this will make it clear you are into him.

There’s many other ways to show a guy that you like him, but make sure you’re being clear. From the e-mails I’ve been reading, women tends to play some sort of passive aggressive game. If a woman does xyz a guy must follow with an action to show that he cares. These things do not work. Be upfront and clear, make sure the message is clearly transmitted. You don’t have to be aggressive, that may probably him away. You can convey a clear message without trying to beat him over the head with a bat.

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