Comments on: Are Men Intimidated By Women, Preventing Us From Asking Her Out?

By: Single City Guy

Single City Guy — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 00:50:35 +0000

@Mikael Confidence is a turn on! Well for me! It depends on how it comes out. Anyone who’s overconfident can come off as cocky. If it is you being a strong woman and just being confident but humble, then I’m sure it’s because guys think they are going to be shot down. Singers/Actresses are always in a weird position because a regular guy doesn’t think he has the chance, when in actually he does. You may want to try approaching men more often, some may freak out, but others will respect it and enjoy it.

By: Mikael

Mikael — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 08:48:00 +0000

Very interesting… But I’ve also been told that I’m intimidating because of my confidence on more than one occasion. Apparently, that was the reason I was never asked to my high school prom. I thought confidence was a turn-on. *scratches head* Is it true that it can be an intimidating factor as well?

By: Single City Guy

Single City Guy — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 20:36:24 +0000

Several reasons really, here’s two:

I’m not a woman and I really don’t know. I assume they EXPECT us to talk to them
This blog is dating from the male prospective, and a post to help women soo…

By: Ed

Ed — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 20:20:52 +0000

All this on men not asking women out, how about you start a discussion about what stops women from asking men out?

By: Miss Alpha

Miss Alpha — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 16:49:28 +0000

I agree with Skye Blue. The only reason a man doesn’t ask a woman out – beautiful or otherwise – is because he is not interested. Even a timid man will usually take the risk if he is truly drawn to someone. Also, if you are only average looking but have an inviting energy you will be beating them off with a stick. :)

By: Kate

Kate — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 14:00:01 +0000

Very true – I have thought for a while this is us trying to make ourselves feel better if a guy isn’t into us.

Kate xx

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By: Skye Blue

Skye Blue — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 13:27:05 +0000

Interesting post. Although I can appreciate the fact that men are often afraid of rejection when considering approaching a woman, I think the whole ‘I intimidate men’ thing is way overdone by women.

In my experience the women who are most likely to say that men are intimidated by them (based on looks, profession, education etc) are 1) women who are trying to assuage their insecurities when a man they are interested in rejects them, or 2) women who are trying to downplay the fact that their abrasive, overbearing and downright unapproachable energy keeps men away from them.

That’s my two cents…

By: girltrueheart

girltrueheart — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 13:08:38 +0000

Thanks for writing this. If you haven’t covered it yet (I’m a new follower so I still want to sift thru the archives), I wonder about the angle that ultimately comes up at the conclusion of reading this for me: So how do guys feel about a woman asking them out? Too ballsy? Because it then places us in a spot where we now feel we must pay (hey we did the asking) which further places us in the driver seat and further away from actually knowing if the guy really likes us or if he just said yes because we asked. Over analyzing? Perhaps. Just my Monday thinkin; it might be stinkin.

By: Fish

Fish — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 11:41:23 +0000

Spot on. Every word here is true, ladies. Great work.