Pick-Up Artists, You’ve Only Made Things Harder
Since introduced to The Game, I’ve followed the world of the pick-up artist (PUA), even hanging out with them for a short time. As I’ve expressed many times in the past, I have a frustration with the entire PUA world and culture, mainly because it places an emphasis in the wrong places. Not to my surprise, members of the pick-up artist community don’t like me or my style (more on that in a future post). Pick-up artists have some value in the dating scene, not everything they discuss or do is pure garbage; some of what they teach, and do makes a lot of sense and is effective. I believe their current value to dating, and the dating world has passed. Pick-up artists have replaced jocks, muscle heads, and the overconfident womanizer, as the bottom rung of male. Unlike these other guys, Pick-Up Artists have only make dating harder, even for themselves.
The PUA community may raise their arms in anger, and disgust to this notion. They may claim they’ve given tools to men to make their dating lives easier, which in some cases is true. The truth is, the goal of the Pick-Up Artist community have turned from genuinely trying to help men get past the defenses of women to purely sleep with as many attractive women as possible. That community and lifestyle has garnered a lot of attention, and has entered the female continuousness. This means they aren’t easily impressed by someone who uses a line that’s been used by many PUA’s, or suckered in by one of their many “magic” tricks. I don’t have a problem with this side-effect. I believe every woman should read The Game, so they are aware of the silly things some men will try to do, just to lay them. A real man shouldn’t have to use these sorts of games and tricks to get and maintain a woman’s attention.
My issue lies further beneath the surface, and usually begins when woman has dated, or fooled around with a pick-up artist. While you pick up some tricks as a dating blogger, I’m nowhere near the status of their sort of foolery. The things I’ve learned, from friends, professionals, and dating material, is how to be the best version of myself, and how to convey that to the world at large. When I take these lessons, and apply them at the bar, I’ve had a certain resistance from women I’ve not expected, and one woman hit the nail on the head this past weekend.
“One of the guys I deal with is a pick-up artist, so I’m very weary of guys like you… like where did all of that suave come from?” She explained to me. As she spoke those words, things became crystal clear. There have been enough women, who have dated pick-up artists, that anything that seems like one adds an extra guard. My natural charm, presentation, and presence, can come off as if I’m a “one of those guys”, just skimming for chicks. If anything, I have to spend more time trying to explain why I’m not one, without tripping over her bullshit meter.
With the woman above, I ended up with her number, but after a few texts haven’t received any response. Why? I’m sure she thinks that I’m some sort of guy trying to run game on her. Multiply this by the amount of women, PUA’s have met and dated, multiply that by the friends these women have told about PUA’s, and you begin to see the problem. Every woman is on her guard about being played by some guy, especially if he’s someone who does this for a living. What was supposedly a tool that helped men, has now become a hinderance and has made approaching women more difficult.
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