Places To Meet Women, That Don’t Include The Bar

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It seems, guys forget one important fact to meeting women. They are everywhere. They are on the street, on the train, on the bus, in cars, in planes; they are in cafe’s, at the buffet, and quite possibly walking your way. Poor rhyming scheme aside, the point is, it’s not hard to find a woman. Men need to think outside of the bar or the club as the only places to meet one. The reason it seems easy to meet women at a bar, is because it’s a comfortable environment, with very little expectations. To best meet women, you need to begin with an environment you’re comfortable with. There’s many comfortable spaces that don’t involve the bar, here’s a few I suggest.

Small Neighborhood Cafe’s (Not Starbucks)

Neighborhood café’s are great places to meet women. Usually they are small, intimate, comfortable places where people go to work or socialize. In many ways, neighborhood cafe’s are like bars, but without the alcohol and the sports game in the background. It’s a comfortable social atmosphere that lends itself to similar interactions that can occur at the bar. The beauty of neighborhood cafe’s is they often don’t become crowded, unbearable venues, like a certain popular coffee-chains. You can head to a cafe with a book, take a phone call, and possibly, meet someone who shares your choice of latte.

The Bookstore/Library

A place with books is a great place to meet women. It’s also seen as a very traditional place to meet women. Libraries and bookstores are seen as places of solitude and quiet, but they help with introductions quite easily. If you’re looking through the travel section and there’s an attractive women perusing a particular section you have knowledge about, you could offer some advice. Why should she go to the information desk, if you have just as much knowledge?


The beauty about a meetup is, everyone shares the same tastes. If you join a Chess Meetup, someone isn’t going to seek a game of checkers. If you join a Rollerblade Club, everyone is going to have on a pair of blades. Meetups are centered around a common interest, and the beginning for great conversation. Using a tool like is a great way to explore your interests, meet other like-minded people, and engage in worry free conversations with women who attend.

On The Train/Subway/Bus

I’ve had many female friends meet boyfriend on the train. While awkward, public transit are great avenues for meeting women. Your chances of meeting someone, probably aren’t best during rush hour. Morning rush hours are the worse, because everyone isn’t a morning person. I’ve found the best times to meet someone new on the train, is during the weekends, or late afternoon/early evening. Don’t underestimate the potential of metro transit!


I had to call online dating expert, Laurie Davis for this one. Yoga is an underrated place to meet women. Most yoga classes lack male participation. The male/female radio is something like 1 guy for every 10 women. I remember entering a yoga store, and having a completely surreal experience. At one point there were three or four women talking to me, trying to invite me to a yoga class they were attending or trying to find out if I was single. Be warned though, yoga isn’t necessarily a social space, you’re going to have to find your moments to talk to a women you find attractive. If your lucky, they may even approach you.

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    Laura said on March 1st, 2011 - 5:55 pm

    I like this a lot! Now any chance you can post from your own gender’s perspective on where good places are for women to find men? :)

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    Plowboy said on May 3rd, 2011 - 5:15 pm

    “They [women] are everywhere.”

    Eh. You should get out of NYC and look for women in rural areas if you really believe that.

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      Single City Guy said on May 3rd, 2011 - 5:27 pm

      I have actually. But then again, my name isn’t Single Rural Guy.

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