Dating Topics
Published On: May 28th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 8 Comments
In some recent conversations on Twitter, It became clear that I should highlight the reasons men do not call. One of the first reasons is possibly the most obvious, we live hectic lifestyles. That’s not to say women don’t live busy and hectic lives, but this post isn’t about the reasons women don’t call.
Often, when I’ve not called a woman, it was often due to the clutter and chaos in my life. I didn’t intentionally mean not to call her, but if I had to choose between working to pay the bills or calling a woman, she’s going to have to wait. Often calling her would be put off so long, it didn’t may any sense to call. Many of us figure, if we don’t call in three or four days, we may be out of luck. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Understanding Men, Why Do Men, Why Men Don't Call
Dating Topics
Published On: May 27th, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments
A week ago I was on the train heading to work, and I saw something very interesting, an older white man in a suit with his woman cuddling on the train. This may seem like something that isn’t post worthy, many couples cuddle with one another on the train. You may even begin to develop a mental image of some guy in his 50‘s with a woman holding hands and cuddling. Normal PDA stuff, which I agree isn’t anything to dedicate a blog post to.
What they were doing wasn’t very interesting, who they were was. While the man seemed like he was heading to some sort of corporate meting, the woman was completely different from what I would have assumed he would be with; she was a slightly younger Asian woman in casual clothes which revealed her many tattoos. The image in my mind was that he was a business man and she was an artist. My first thought when I saw them; “Awesome!” [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Tips, Personality Differences, What makes a good relationship?
Dating Resources
Published On: May 27th, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments
A week ago, I had the opportunity to interview Larry Wilson, the founder of Opposites Connect, a new online dating website with a very different approach to dating; finding your opposites. To many, the idea may seem counter intuitive, why would you seek the opposite of what you want? If you like cats, why would you search for someone who likes dogs? If your a Yankees fan, why would you ever data a Red Sox fan? The answer, it brings upon interesting conversation.
Larry referenced a recent post (Determine What You Can Handle While Dating), to help explain the concept. “Dating is built on conflict resolution,” he suggested, and further explained several problems with current dating websites. When you go on a date, conversation becomes a repetition of what is already known, and doesn’t lead to real conversation. Essentially the first date (or first meet-up) is a repetition of viewing their online profile. As Larry put it, “all we have found out was what we already know!” [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Websites, Online Dating, Preview
Dating Topics
Published On: May 21st, 2010 by Single City Guy | 3 Comments
Many people become frustrated when they can’t find their perfect match. The question I faced when I became frustrated was, what are you really seeking? One way to answer this question is, if you were blind what would you look for?
Some time ago, I was out with my friend, Laurie Davis (eFlirtExpert) for drinks and catching up. We discussed my dating travels and how I arrived at the point where I now have a girlfriend. We began to discuss my spell of frustration, where I choose to send messages to women and received little or no responses. The problem was, I choose women for the wrong qualities. I sought their looks and did not address the contents of their profile. She then asked the same question she asked me during my searches, “Why did you choose those women?” Honestly, I saw boobs, butts, and a cute face most of the time. In my searches, I forgot to choose personality. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Blind Love, How to be a better dater, Online Dating, Quality vs. Quantity
Dating
Published On: May 18th, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments
The beauty about being in a long term relationship is, most of the concerns that arise while dating tend to fade away. The flaw about being in a long term relationship is, most of the concerns that arise while dating tend to return. You would think I would be completely comfortable with Rule Breaker at this point in our relationship. I think that I am, but every moment I spend with her, I find myself become increasingly comfortable with her. I’m always discovering a new level of comfort and security with her.
At first I needed to see her every day, to ensure things would be okay, but at the moment, I’m past the point. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: How to be comfortable, Relationships, Thoughts
Dating
Published On: May 16th, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments
I was going to hang out at my bar. The same bar where my adventures in alcohol had begun many years ago. I promised myself only a few drinks, make an attempt to meet someone new, and enjoy myself. Otherwise it was going to be another lonely Saturday night with my regular date, pints of beer.
I struck a conversation with other women who came to the bar. None of them were particularly special or was a person I had a particular interest. Somehow, I was on a roll this night, I’ve collected a number or two, but never understood what I did to grab their attention. I can’t quite remember what I did, but my confidence level was thru the roof. It wasn’t soon after I got my second number that she approached the bar for a drink. A glass of wine, it was red. I noticed her earlier in the evening when she entered with what I assumed was her boyfriend. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Bad Dates, Dating Stories, The Lawyer
Dating Topics
Published On: May 15th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 1 Comment
Every man is scared of a woman rejecting their advances. I was often paralyzed by my attempts to grab a woman’s attention only leading to a quick and simple brush off. Even the act of her saying, “no” grasped by body with fear. Lets face it, women can be ruthless when approached by men. Rejection is blow to the ego, and derails any momentum. Often, when I was dealt a rejection, I would analyze the reasons as if I was a scientist at a secret lab. Was it my approach? Am I not attractive? Do I smell?
Rarely would I come away with a useable answer. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: How to handle rejection, Understanding Men, What does 'no' mean?
Dating Resources
Published On: May 15th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 1 Comment
Online dating is a very huge business. For many years, the process has been simple: create a profile, include a picture, pick people you like, go on a date. While the model has worked well for years, and has been upgraded with personality tests and compatibility factors, it’s very limited. There’s a claim that 1 in 5 singles are in a committed relationship with someone they met on a dating website, but this doesn’t make online dating any less frustrating and fruitless than it is. To help alleviate this frustration, websites began to focus on niche communities, such as JDate, but they follow in the same mold.
In both cases, there are success, and frustrations. I don’t believe online dating is as successful as advertise. I think the problem is, they focus on the who: who are you looking for, who is compatible with you, who fits you. There is a new generation of dating websites and services that focus on an important question, how. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Dating Websites, Online Dating, Review
Tips for Men
Published On: May 12th, 2010 by Single City Guy | 1 Comment
Handling rejection is the most difficult aspect to dating. One of the reasons men and women hesitate from approaching is their own fear being rejected. Approaching a woman lays on the shoulder of us men, and having a woman tell us “no’ is a huge reason why we suffer from approach anxiety. It’s also the reason we act awkward when approaching a woman, we don’t know what to do.
Approaching a woman is simple if you keep two things in mind: first, act as a normal human being and second, don’t be scared of being told no. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Approaching Women, Fears, Rejection
Single Life
Published On: May 9th, 2010 by Single City Guy | No Comments
I grew up watching the Golden Girls. When the show ran, I would sit and enjoy the antics of four, older, crazy women living together in a south Florida home in a retirement community. However nostalgic we are about the shows we loved, we have fallen in love with the characters and actors and will always cherish them. Betty White will always have a special place in my heart, which I believe is true for many of us. Obvious by the campaign to have her host Saturday Night Live.
To me, Betty White is the ultimate mother. That’s not to say that I don’t love my mother or think she’s the most awesome woman in the world. Betty White embodies all the qualities we love, enjoy, respect and ask of our mothers. To sound like a card carrying member of the Tea Party (which I’m not), Betty White is America’s Mother. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Tagged As: Betty White, Holidays, Mother's Day, Saturday Night Live
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