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It takes about six months to determine if you’ll have any dating success. I know there are books that promise meeting women in 30 days, but that’s only a part of the formula. To achieve any real success with dating, it requires hard work, making many mistakes, and figuring out what works best for you. It took me about four and a half months to meet my current girlfriend. Readers of the blog know the process wasn’t easy at all. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
No one ever says, dating very mercurial, especially in New York City. It’s always assumed. There are moments when dates appear out of the woodwork, other moments when buying a date from the most desperate people seems impossible. This causes much frustration. I’ve always assumed dating would be a consistent flow of dates on a weekly basis, but that’s never the case, especially with online dating. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Men aren’t exempt from showing women respect. While women need to display more respect while dating men, we must also show them the same amount of respect they deserve. Respect isn’t waiting on a woman’s whim and acting as her servant (as one someone had commented); it’s having common courtesy and respect to treat her as a person and not as a thing.
Showing a woman you respect her isn’t a difficult process. Begin with establishing a level of honesty; if you need to say something important during a date, tell her, even if you think it may hurt her. Don’t be offensive or provide inappropriate details about some things. You can be honest about what you’re seeking in a woman, and if you have an interest in her. “I’m not interested in you,” as respectful, opposed to “you’re an ugly bitch!” [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
I believe, women often feel men are time wasters. Women are quick to point out they aren’t playing games and want to know the direction of their interactions with you. There are guys who date only for casual sex, but that’s a waste of time if the woman their with wants something serious. A woman can get laid easily if she wants. I remember one blogger saying, she could yell from her balcony to any guy passing underneath it and ask if he wants to come up; 9 out of 10 times he would.
Evan Marc Katz asked his readers this question on his blog. I feel the question continues incorrect stereotype about men. We want to be in committed relationships, but like everything else there’s a time and place for such things. Women need to find qualities in men that reflect commitment, opposed to seeking certain things from a relationship. However, the answer to the question relies on timing. Men like to know the person we’re dating is just as committed and wants us, not our things. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
A friend recently asked me “If your dating someone you met from a dating website, at which point should you remove your dating profile?” There isn’t a clear cut answer to this question. I don’t believe there’s a certain number of dates when profiles should be removed. Instead, removing profiles from dating sites has more to do with that status of your relationship with that person. The real question you should ask before removing a dating profile is, are the two of you exclusive? [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
I feel people have turned dating into a way to seek sex, opposed to a way to meet a potential partner. Many “date” as a way to keep their bed warm at night, but I don’t believe that’s dating at all. That’s just hooking up with random strangers. I’m defining dating as the process of meeting someone with the potential of developing an exclusive relationship. It includes, dates, networking, and many different social interactions. Going on a date, doesn’t mean you’re dating someone, it just means you’re meeting someone under certain pretenses. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
Women are told, men always cheat! Men are told we are cheaters and can’t help ourselves. Additionally, we are encouraged to cheat, often reminded that we’re lacking without multiple women hanging off of our body. The truth is everyone cheats: men, women, lions, dolphins, etc. Women always ask “Why do men cheat?” As if they are completely innocent. If a woman cheats, there was a reason for it, he was disrespectful to her, wasn’t doing his job in bed, or was an asshole. If a man cheats, it’s because he’s a man. In reality, men cheat for the very same reasons women cheat. It’s not a man or woman thing, it’s a human thing. Not everyone is faithful.
Men don’t cheat because we’re seeking sex from anyone with two legs, it’s because there’s opportunity and access. Some of the rationale for cheating comes from the images we’re feed by mainstream media in today’s over sexualized world. Those ideas are merely suggestions, as there are plenty of other suggestions that recommend living a wonderful, monogamous life. The root of why we cheat really boils down to a few basic reasons, there may be something missing in a relationship, we may feel unsatisfied, or we were never ready to be in a committed relationship. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
We all have our moments where we question our dating successes and failures. They are usually just that, a series of events that lead to some success or failure. While my dating life, overall, is a mixture of successes and failures, during my the periods where women weren’t responding to me, I began to ask, “what’s wrong with me?” By asking this question, I was ignoring the successes I’ve had, the lessons learned to build upon. Maybe the real answer to the question has nothing to do with me, but with women.
We all pass up opportunities, especially when it comes to dating. I’m not going to suggest that every woman I’ve dated has missed out on their best opportunity by by not seeking a relationship with me. That would be egotistical. I would be ignoring the flaws I have and would suggest that I’m the best choice for every woman in the world. It’s not the truth. There is a possibility that I’m not the best fit for the women I’ve dated in the past.
However, I do believe that women are often seeking cookie cutter men, instead of men right for them. There is a difference. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
When I started with Laurie Davis, she asked me who my cookie cutter woman was. What was she like? I rattled off a bit of superficial checklist items, she had to be tall, had to be into sports, and so on. My dream woman was the love child of Angelina Jolie, Megan Fox, Brooklyn Decker and Lucy Lu. This woman exists in two places, my dreams and fantasies. [Read The Rest Of This Entry]
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