Maybe You’re Not As Awesome As You Think
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on March 11, 2010
My father once told me, I should listen to my enemies more than my friends. While my friends may be honest, they often sugarcoat the truth and tolerate my absurdities. My enemies tend to often be direct and brutally honest in their critiques. He suggested their honesty may reflect a realities closer to the truth opposed to the way I would often think about myself. In a way, it allows honesty by looking at myself thru a different set of eyes. Read the rest of this entry »
When Should You Consider Exclusivity?
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on March 10, 2010
SCG: I know this isn't a dating picture, per say, but it's a cool design from a clothing company!
Here’s a great question I’ve recently had to handle. When do you become exclusive with the person you’re dating? There isn’t a 20 date minimum to exclusivity, it’s more innate than that, it’s a feeling. That may be a “cop out” answer, but it’s the only logical answer.
There comes a point while dating that you know it’s time to give up on seeing anyone else. It’s when the thought of dating another person doesn’t feel right, where you don’t have any interests in another person. It’s also when that feeling isn’t forced upon you but develops naturally. Read the rest of this entry »
Be Honest With Your Date
Posted by Single City Guy in Tips for Men on March 10, 2010
There are millions of articles, websites, books and magazines dedicated to translating the hidden language of men. It’s not that we speak a hidden language, but we communicate differently than women. Generally we are seen as poor communicators, a fact I’m not inclined to dispute. Men are perceived as poor communicators because most of our communication relies on assumptions and actions instead of traditional verbalization. We speak, but don’t go into detail about every piece of our lives. The truth of the matter is we display our feelings differently than women, which causes plenty of confusion and frustration.
Women enjoy hearing our feelings and honest thoughts. The truth is more respectable than a lie or and more honorable than leading women to their own assumptions. A woman will often make assumptions based on our actions and their wants, regardless of they’re accurate. If we act as if we’re heading towards a long term relationship, when we’re just seeking sex, women will assume we’re working towards a long term relationship. Read the rest of this entry »
Women Must Respect Men
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on March 9, 2010
There are common themes that emerge when I read many other dating blogs, women taking their hostility out on men. We’re often reminded why men are jerks, horrible assholes, and why a guy isn’t suited for female standards. This stems from the perceived notion that women aren’t finding their perfect guy, and slamming men for the bad decisions in men they date. This is an ultimate sign of disrespect, almost as if women don’t think a good, valuable guy exists for them. Read the rest of this entry »
Women Aren’t Entitled To Anything
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on March 8, 2010
“Well she’s got a hotty body, but her attitude is potty/When I met her at a party she was hardly acting naughty/I said “Shorty, would you call me?”/She said “Pardon me, are you ballin’?”/I said “Darling, you sound like a prostitute pausing”/Oh so you’re one them freaks, get geeked at the sight of an ATM receipt” – OutKast – Roses
Entitled women are the worst type of women in the world to date. An entitled woman believes men should always prove their worth. They feel men should always pay for a date, call within the first two days, meet their beck and call, be a certain height, and always ask them out. Some entitlements are warranted, but most aren’t, and some go to extremes, such as gold diggers.
Entitled women often believe that men owe them something for their time. They are the pretty, pretty, princesses who should have everything given to them. Not only are these women kidding themselves, they are the worst kind of woman to date! Read the rest of this entry »
Rule Breaker and The Third Date
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating on March 8, 2010
The third date is a very important date. The last woman to make it to a third date was XPG, and things ended awkwardly. Rule Breaker had made it to this important part in the dating process and intuitively many decisions were going to be made. Due to the dates importance, the date itself had to carry some weight, we decided on an Italian place near her apartment. Read the rest of this entry »
Ideas For A Great Third Date
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on March 5, 2010
The third date is an important step in the dating process. At this point of dating someone, it’s generally known whether you’re interested in seeing the same person for a longer, or not at all. Usually, the first two dates include some form of drinks and food, but the third date should stand out from the rest. It should be unique from the previous dates, and something that will set you apart from any other individuals she may be dating.
There are plenty of good third date activities, and I believe it should last more than an hour and include a hint of intimacy. By the third date you should have kissed the person your dating, if that’s not the case, something is wrong. Heading to either your or her apartment to make out isn’t a bad idea to consider as a part of the date, but maybe after the actual date had ended. The date should begin with something that would lead to an intimate moment.
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Posted by Single City Guy in Updates on March 5, 2010
Men Feel They Must Be In Control
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating Topics on February 19, 2010
We men have the need to feel as if we’re in control of any situation. It’s what we’re taught when we’re young, it’s how we’re raised, it’s what society tells us. We are reminded, often, we are to take the lead. When a situation arises, it feels as if it’s a guys duty to ensure all is under control. We’re taught to take the lead, and it’s something we believe women expect. In many cases they expect the same as well. Women expect us to ask them out on a date, they expect us to pay for the first date, they expect us to make the move. The pressure, assertiveness and control is very much in our court.
The post-feminist modern women has a very different outlook on this scenario. They want to be in control (having been controlled for so long), they want a piece of this power that men have had for centuries. They want their say. This causes plenty of conflicts for many reasons, first control isn’t always about decision making and second, women want us to be in control, they want a man. Read the rest of this entry »
Working Without A Script
Posted by Single City Guy in Dating on February 18, 2010
Rule Breaker is a woman definitely have an interest in. After our first date, I wanted to see her again, and the plan was to see her a week after the first one. At this point, I didn’t know what I was doing. All of the dating advice, rules, and tips were being stacked in an order that I could not predict or was being thrown own. I was working without a script, a plan, most of it had been thrown out. After the first date, I had every intention to call her the next day. Things didn’t happen that easily.
I got dumped into a world insane schedules and work that would eat my time like Pac-Man would power pills. The day after our date, I didn’t call, neither the day after that, or the following day. I kept on arriving home late, being exhausted from the work I was doing, having to juggle a few million other things. This wasn’t a good thing at all. It wasn’t until Saturday when I dialed her number, but she was out of town and I was reacquainted with her best friend, her voicemail. Read the rest of this entry »
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